Improve all your Relationships with this One Simple Trick!
One of the keys for success in our lives is to improve the relationships with all the people in our life.
I have previously written about improving all your relationships but a few weeks ago, I learnt and began to apply this one simple trick which will improve all your relationships quite quickly. This is nothing new by the way, and I am sure I read somewhere a while ago about appreciation circles.
The idea of my “appreciation circle” is to get everyone to say something positive of someone, present or not present, dead or alive.
During the grieving period for my late father in December, one afternoon we were all sitting around in the lounge in a circle and I suggested we go around the room with each person sharing what they remembered about my father and what he meant to them.
It was a magical 15 minutes as everyone shared their fondest memories about my father – and funnily we even learnt a few things from my aunts about him that we didn’t know before.
At the end of this session of appreciation after everyone had had their say, I suggested we should do this more often, but with a LIVING person and not after he or she had passed away.
And then I said we didn’t even need a group. We could mentally picture a person in our life and imagine all their positive qualities and just what they mean to us. We could go one step further and write everything down and share it with that person.
We could expand on this by writing down things about a person we hardly even know and sharing them with that person. (I wonder what we would say about each other!!)
Can you imagine how the world would be a better place if we all lived our lives with this attitude of appreciation, complimenting and noticing people’s finest points?!
So for today, choose one person with whom you want to improve your relationship and spend a few minutes appreciating their fine points and what they mean to you in your life.
Believe it or not, they will tune into your positive thoughts subconsciously, and almost like magic your relationship will improve.
How cool is that?!
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Hi Arvind,
I’ll say something positive here: Your idea is terrific, I can’t wait to try it out with friends, and you’re a very good person for having come up with this idea. Remembering a loved one, especially since you’ve only recently lost your father, is often the only way we can live with our grief. Remember that the amount of pain we feel for the loss of a loved one is commensurate with the amount of love we felt for them while they were alive. This circle of positive talk, this tribute to your father is a blessing, as it is a continuation of your demonstrated love. Having lost my mother recently, I too have found ways to commemorate her life. Thank you for sharing this nice method of showing appreciation for others. -Mike.
Thanks Mike for sharing your feedback. My heartfelt condolences re the loss of your mother.
Over the last few weeks, I have felt that only one who has suffered the loss of a parent can truly understand and empathise with someone else who has just lost a parent.
The irony is that we can carry out this appreciation of a loved one at any time, even when they are alive and should not have to wait until they are no longer with us.
I wish you well with your own healing and do let me know how you get on with your friends.
Arvind
nice site!! keep it up!!..want to x links..thanks in advance..
I too have lost my father, and know the feelings, sad and happy. He was very young, and it was a long time ago now. We still talk about things, like you say, and hear new stories! It is very nice to read love and happiness towards others, than criticism and hate. Beautiful, thank you Arvind.
Thanks Susan for your kind words - and condolences too for the loss of your father.
May you continue to talk about yuor father and enjoy new stories about him.
Take care and all the best.