It has been a long time since I posted on here. It is already October and it is amazing how quickly this year has been going by.
My blog is my chosen home page and it has been painful for me every time I opened my web browser to see the same post from July staring back at me. Okay it was Nelson Mandela but still!
So what has happened and what is next?
I have so often written about how it was time to make things happen
However, I have learnt over the last few months that sometimes you just have to let things happen in their own time. One cannot keep making things happen if you are simply not ready for it.
That is the space I have been in and it has been surreal to say the least. I love writing and yet I just could not get the inspiration or the desire to start blogging again.
I realised that amongst other things I still had a lot of grief to go through after the sudden and untimely death of my father last December. This also brought up the sadness from previous losses and it was full on!
But sooner or later, I knew that one day I will get back my old boundless energy and sparkle for life. And that time is now.
During the last 3 months I have been busy with spending time with family and even had a family holiday in Atlanta, USA during August.
As always, what has been amazing and so heartwarming has been the support from family, friends, and strangers. One day I shall write a post just about the messages of hope, kindness, love and sympathy that I have received.
I have also finished off my book “Personal Social Responsibility” and launched its accompanying website at www.PersonalSocialResponsibility.com.
It feels great to be back – it really is time to blossom again, a time to soar like a condor
This reminds me of something a I heard a few years ago titled – “Come to the Edge”:-
“come to the edge,” he said.
they said, “we are afraid.”
“come to the edge, he said.
they came.
he pushed them,
and they flew.
So time indeed to fly.
We all need a push now and then – I have been pushed in the gentlest way possible.
What will help push you?!
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Welcome back. I start following your blog and what do you do? You take this huge break from it. Ah, but I do get posts from you at GSTF. It is interesting because I’ve only been blogging for about six months and the people that I’ve met via blogging such as yourself have been pushing me along; however, I do not know where I am going. I just know the next step, but I am moving.
Arvind
Nice to have you back. What I really like about your posts is your general outlook on life. Positive and encouraging. Not just sitting back and watching the world going by.
Welcome back buddy
Look forward to seeing you do your thing!
Also sent you a couple of e’s yday.
-Kavit
Arvind
Your words are visually beautiful and always touch the soul. Thank you for your love and sharing – we need your inspiration and appreciate and celebrate you.
Sheetal
Sheetal,
I am glad you found my words visually beautiful. It feels great to be back writing again.
Time to celebrate
Arvind bhai,
Such a nice article, i like to read your articles and get inspired from it.
Keep writing
regards
Arvind,
It was a real pleasure speaking with you at Neil’s Wedding on 080808.
This post is very apt in my case albeit in reverse.
What Pushes me? More to the point, what pushed me?
the passing of my Mother at the age of 15.
I strongly believe that everything happens for a reason and like the butterfly effect there is an organised chaos theory in play. I know this terminology is contradictory but think about it this way:
If a man is climbing up a mountain in pursuit of his goals to make his dreams happen or self fulfilment, and as a result unsettles some rocks which in turn fall and disturbs a butterfly this will have said subsequent effects… it can be said that this ‘negative’ chaotic or butterfly effect is a balancing effect of a positive conscious decision.
The resulting storm may take the lives of innocent people prompting people like me to take positive steps in life….. like me!
Now whilst my mother didn’t die in a storm, it could have potentially have had a whirlwind effect on my life. In fact she passed away 6 weeks before my GCSE exams and from my recollection i seemed immune to the emotions of this event until the day of the funeral when reality really hit hard. On that day, someone made a passing comment that we all need to try and be more like her. I can safely say that this was ‘the’ defining moment of my life. I changed me forever; mum was kind, forgiving and liked by everyone that ever met her, she was insightful and inspired. That has been my mission ever since combined with the stark reality that life is simply too short to be sitting around waiting for things to just happen on their own.
I could have let her death ruin my education and exams but i chose to use it as my motivation and came away with a string of A’s, I then went on to do my A-Levels which allowed me to become a qualified and chartered Architect as well as a professional photographer.
Whilst i believe that you don’t always need to continually push to make things happen, i do believe that you need to learn to understand the flow of your context and go with it.
If im ever in doubt, i think what would she have done… then i make my own balanced judgement.
Thanks a lot Sanjay for sharing your very moving and brave story.
It was great to also meet you at Neil’s wedding.
I lost my father last December and it has been the most painful and surreal 10 months since then. But like you, I have kept going and inspired myself by focussing on what he would have done and what he would have wanted me to do.
Good luck with your career and the photography business – I am sure our paths will cross again very soon.
Dear LVS,
Thanks so much for your kind words.
It has been quite a challenging year but I feel I am over the worst of it.
This year has certainly gone very, very fast for me.
I have just written an article “My first year without my father in my life” and I will be publishing it on my blog on 3rd December, the anniversary of his passing.
I shall email it to you in the meantime
very sorry about your father. My condolences on your loss. It must be very hard to get back into doing anything after that. But its great the way you have come out of it and even written a book on it.
Do you think some years go faster than other years?
great looking forward to reading it