Why the Bird in your Hand is Worth Two in the Bush

Do you wish to have more in your life than you currently have?

Have you ever been envious of other people who had that flashy car, nice big house or attractive partner?

If so, then it is time for you to get clear and appreciate what you already have in your life.

First, what does the phrase “A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush” really mean?

Wiktionary dryly explains that it is better to have a small, actual advantage than the chance of a greater one.

Historically, the phrase refers back to mediaeval falconry in England where a bird in the hand (the falcon) was certainly worth more than two in the bush (the prey).

In everyday terms, it means it is better to keep what you have than to give it up and try to get something better. You already have a bird in the hand but you would still rather have what you don’t have i.e. two birds in the bush.

The point is that you should be happy with what you already have and not risk losing it by being greedy and trying to get more.

Remember also that though the grass may always seem greener on the other side of the fence, in reality it is hardly ever the case.

The key is to enjoy and appreciate what you already have. Next time you think others are having a better time or have more than you, just remember the three things you already have going for you:-

1. Your lifestyle

On a superficial level, you might think other people have a much better lifestyle than you. For example, they might have the flashy car and big house which you always wanted.

But how do you know just how happy they really are, or even what their financial situation is? They may have huge borrowings and repayments challenges.

Of course it is okay to aspire to better yourself and your situation, but remember that could well come with a high price. It’s about getting clear about what you want and your priorities.

So appreciate whatever material things you already have and make the most of them. At the same time, whilst appreciating what you have, you are always allowed to declutter!

2. Your relationships

You might envy others who seem to have a much better relationship than you. But just how close and loving is their relationship?

Are they really as happy as you?

You might even covet someone else’s partner for being better looking, sexy and charming. But at the same time, can you really know what they are like as a person in a relationship?

A secret affair or two may seem rather attractive and fun, but the kicks will be rather short-lived. Just ask Tiger Woods!

Also appreciate the friends you already have.

3. Your uniqueness

Have you ever tried to be like someone else because they seemed to be more outwardly successful?

So often we try to impress others by being something we are not. Instead, just be authentic and be yourself. Be comfortable in your own skin.

You are here on your own journey – no point trying to take on someone else’s façade along the way!

Hold on to the bird in your hand

Know that you don’t need to pretend to be something you are not. And neither do you need the outer symbols of success to make an impression.

Enjoy what you already have – and make your contribution to the world in the best possible way.

And remember how easy it can be to blow it all by going for more and not appreciating what you already have.

I wonder what Tiger Woods would have to say today about appreciating what you already have in your life right now.

You have to hold on to the bird in your hand whilst you can, otherwise one day it may just fly away!

Top photo from Brenda-Starr