Comments on: How to be Annoyingly Positive and Still Keep your Boring Friends! http://www.arvinddevalia.com/blog/2010/02/04/how-to-be-annoyingly-positive-and-still-keep-your-boring-friends/ Make it Happen For Yourself and for the World Sat, 11 Feb 2012 19:29:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Arvind Devalia http://www.arvinddevalia.com/blog/2010/02/04/how-to-be-annoyingly-positive-and-still-keep-your-boring-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-6039 Arvind Devalia Wed, 15 Dec 2010 14:06:08 +0000 http://www.ArvindDevalia.com/blog/?p=3234#comment-6039 Tausend Dank! Tausend Dank!
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]]> By: Manisha Shahane http://www.arvinddevalia.com/blog/2010/02/04/how-to-be-annoyingly-positive-and-still-keep-your-boring-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-3620 Manisha Shahane Tue, 16 Mar 2010 00:25:54 +0000 http://www.ArvindDevalia.com/blog/?p=3234#comment-3620 <span class="topsy_trackback_comment"><span class="topsy_twitter_username"><span class="topsy_trackback_content">RT @ArvindDevalia: How to be Annoyingly Positive and Still Keep your Boring Friends! http://is.gd/7HFeq</span></span> RT @ArvindDevalia: How to be Annoyingly Positive and Still Keep your Boring Friends! http://is.gd/7HFeq

]]> By: Arvind Devalia http://www.arvinddevalia.com/blog/2010/02/04/how-to-be-annoyingly-positive-and-still-keep-your-boring-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-2965 Arvind Devalia Tue, 23 Feb 2010 11:31:37 +0000 http://www.ArvindDevalia.com/blog/?p=3234#comment-2965 Thanks Madeleine, I really enjoyed writing this post and it shows. Also I have been on both sides of the fence so I completely relate to what it's like being around someone maddeningly upbeat whilst you are not in a greatspace yourself. I guess the solution is to find a happy medium ground where you can try and understand what's going on for someone who is acting in a negative way, without getting yourself down at the same time. Of course you can offer to help with your company, cup of tea, walk in the park, but at the end of the day, it is up to the other person to get through whatever it is they are facing. Thanks Madeleine, I really enjoyed writing this post and it shows.

Also I have been on both sides of the fence so I completely relate to what it’s like being around someone maddeningly upbeat whilst you are not in a greatspace yourself.

I guess the solution is to find a happy medium ground where you can try and understand what’s going on for someone who is acting in a negative way, without getting yourself down at the same time. Of course you can offer to help with your company, cup of tea, walk in the park, but at the end of the day, it is up to the other person to get through whatever it is they are facing.

]]> By: Madeleine http://www.arvinddevalia.com/blog/2010/02/04/how-to-be-annoyingly-positive-and-still-keep-your-boring-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-2960 Madeleine Mon, 22 Feb 2010 19:29:34 +0000 http://www.ArvindDevalia.com/blog/?p=3234#comment-2960 Arvind, A good post and comments. Of course, it's difficult (or nearly impossible) to be around people who are always negative, but sometimes negativity is temporary. Perhaps a person is depressed or grieving or struggling with a hardship, such as the loss of a job. If you don't know why another person is acting in a negative way, you might be able to help a bit by offering your company or a cup of tea or a walk together outdoors. Arvind, A good post and comments. Of course, it’s difficult (or nearly impossible) to be around people who are always negative, but sometimes negativity is temporary. Perhaps a person is depressed or grieving or struggling with a hardship, such as the loss of a job. If you don’t know why another person is acting in a negative way, you might be able to help a bit by offering your company or a cup of tea or a walk together outdoors.

]]> By: Arvind Devalia http://www.arvinddevalia.com/blog/2010/02/04/how-to-be-annoyingly-positive-and-still-keep-your-boring-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-2847 Arvind Devalia Mon, 08 Feb 2010 00:49:37 +0000 http://www.ArvindDevalia.com/blog/?p=3234#comment-2847 Baker, never justify your joyous nature and positivity, even if other people thing you are crazy! I get that sometimes:-) Baker, never justify your joyous nature and positivity, even if other people thing you are crazy!

I get that sometimes:-)

]]> By: Baker http://www.arvinddevalia.com/blog/2010/02/04/how-to-be-annoyingly-positive-and-still-keep-your-boring-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-2846 Baker Mon, 08 Feb 2010 00:42:21 +0000 http://www.ArvindDevalia.com/blog/?p=3234#comment-2846 Awesome post. Now I don't have to justify my reason for just being joyful and positive al the time. Excellent post. +Baker Awesome post. Now I don’t have to justify my reason for just being joyful and positive al the time. Excellent post.

+Baker

]]> By: Arvind Devalia http://www.arvinddevalia.com/blog/2010/02/04/how-to-be-annoyingly-positive-and-still-keep-your-boring-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-2842 Arvind Devalia Sun, 07 Feb 2010 22:38:13 +0000 http://www.ArvindDevalia.com/blog/?p=3234#comment-2842 Steven, just imagine what the world would be like if we were all "bubbly, jumping up and down in excitement" kind of people! I do find reframing a great way of helpng people out of their negativity - but at the same time remember that some people are just not ready to do so. Steven, just imagine what the world would be like if we were all “bubbly, jumping up and down in excitement” kind of people!

I do find reframing a great way of helpng people out of their negativity – but at the same time remember that some people are just not ready to do so.

]]> By: Steven | The Emotion Machine http://www.arvinddevalia.com/blog/2010/02/04/how-to-be-annoyingly-positive-and-still-keep-your-boring-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-2839 Steven | The Emotion Machine Sat, 06 Feb 2010 21:42:55 +0000 http://www.ArvindDevalia.com/blog/?p=3234#comment-2839 I always have a positive outlook but I am not the "bubbly, jumping up and down in excitement" kind of person. When I noticed a friend being unreasonably upset I will always reframe it - it is a very useful communicative technique and it is a gentle way of showing someone their persistent negativity. Great words! I always have a positive outlook but I am not the “bubbly, jumping up and down in excitement” kind of person. When I noticed a friend being unreasonably upset I will always reframe it – it is a very useful communicative technique and it is a gentle way of showing someone their persistent negativity.

Great words!

]]> By: Arvind Devalia http://www.arvinddevalia.com/blog/2010/02/04/how-to-be-annoyingly-positive-and-still-keep-your-boring-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-2837 Arvind Devalia Sat, 06 Feb 2010 10:34:28 +0000 http://www.ArvindDevalia.com/blog/?p=3234#comment-2837 Thanks Anastasiya for your effervescent words! India has changed me somehow - I am sur emuch more to bubble up from within me over the coming months. You make a great point about not easily being to let go of our draining family members. Yes, changing the topis often works but have you noticed how some "negative" people insist of holding fort and telling their story for the umpteenth time until they think you have heard it - and then still continue to beat the same tune?! At the end of the day, one day you have to be cruel to be kind - and just let know (kindly) what they are doing to you. And maybe the lesson we all have to learn is to get to a point when nothing outside of us affects our own internal serenity and positive outlook. Anastasoya, maybe that can be a future post for both of us...:-) Thanks Anastasiya for your effervescent words! India has changed me somehow – I am sur emuch more to bubble up from within me over the coming months.

You make a great point about not easily being to let go of our draining family members.

Yes, changing the topis often works but have you noticed how some “negative” people insist of holding fort and telling their story for the umpteenth time until they think you have heard it – and then still continue to beat the same tune?!

At the end of the day, one day you have to be cruel to be kind – and just let know (kindly) what they are doing to you.

And maybe the lesson we all have to learn is to get to a point when nothing outside of us affects our own internal serenity and positive outlook.

Anastasoya, maybe that can be a future post for both of us…:-)

]]> By: Arvind Devalia http://www.arvinddevalia.com/blog/2010/02/04/how-to-be-annoyingly-positive-and-still-keep-your-boring-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-2836 Arvind Devalia Sat, 06 Feb 2010 10:29:39 +0000 http://www.ArvindDevalia.com/blog/?p=3234#comment-2836 Christopher, this is Arvind replying :-) You bring up a great point about being in integrity and being sincere in our relationships with other people. People often only want acceptance from us. But at the same time, it doesn't mean that you become a "friend" to the whole world. Christopher, this is Arvind replying :-)

You bring up a great point about being in integrity and being sincere in our relationships with other people.

People often only want acceptance from us. But at the same time, it doesn’t mean that you become a “friend” to the whole world.

]]> By: Arvind Devalia http://www.arvinddevalia.com/blog/2010/02/04/how-to-be-annoyingly-positive-and-still-keep-your-boring-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-2835 Arvind Devalia Sat, 06 Feb 2010 10:25:31 +0000 http://www.ArvindDevalia.com/blog/?p=3234#comment-2835 Thanks Christopher! Amit's path and mine keeps crossing. We first met in London at a Chinese restauratnt through my sister and then reconnected again 6 years later through the blogosphere. Though we have become good friends, we only met again in person yesterday after 3 years, in a place called Coventry which is 100 miles from London! So through the power of blogging we have become great buddies even though we have only ever met 3 times. And now later today we are off to play badminton. Isn't it wonderful how friendships and connections can pan out. Thanks Christopher!

Amit’s path and mine keeps crossing. We first met in London at a Chinese restauratnt through my sister and then reconnected again 6 years later through the blogosphere.

Though we have become good friends, we only met again in person yesterday after 3 years, in a place called Coventry which is 100 miles from London!

So through the power of blogging we have become great buddies even though we have only ever met 3 times. And now later today we are off to play badminton.

Isn’t it wonderful how friendships and connections can pan out.

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