The Ultimate 40 Posts For Valentine’s Day and Every Day

What are your plans for Valentine’s Day? Is it a time of the year you enjoy or dread?

Today, I am writing a post with a difference. To celebrate Valentine’s Day, I am bringing you some of the best blog posts from around the blogosphere, including some of my own previous articles.

Valentine’s Day is a fun and loving day for many people and there are so many wonderful blog posts out there about all aspects of relationships. I have searched high and wide and these are in my opinion some of the best wisdom you can get, no matter where you are in your relationship.

I am proud to know a lot of these prominent bloggers as friends and it is a privilege for me to share their work with you.

Do take your time reading through these articles, bookmark this post and come back to it again and again as you create a wonderful and happy relationship.

Note my emphasis on “happy” rather than “perfect”!

My fondest wish is that may you all find happiness in yourself and in your relationship, no matter what stage you are at – perhaps single and having a ball, in a blissful union or recovering from a broken heart.

There is some highly useful and ago old wisdom in these 40 posts, so grab a coffee, sit back and come with me on a journey of love and relationships.

1. The real meaning of Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is a celebration of love and it is an opportunity for us to truly reconnect with the real meaning of this day. It is about LOVE, sharing and giving.

Love is the most amazing thing in our lives. It is what makes us human, what makes life worth living. Nothing else truly matters. The size of our homes, bank balances, the beauty of our partner, the speed of our car – all those things pale into insignificance when we face the splendour of what it is that makes us tick.

“Love does not make the world go around – it simply makes the ride worthwhile”.

Love is much greater than what we feel romantically. It is what makes us sing, dance and makes us human.

1. What is Love?

There are so many simple things we can all do on a daily basis to bring more love into our lives. Together we can all make this an even better and more beautiful world than it already is.

Let us use the occasion of Valentine’s Day for us all to become human again together, and manifest even more love in our already magnificent world. Always remember all the positive aspects of love.

2. 9 Positive Aspects of love

2. Avoid the commercialism of Valentine’s Day

Love is NOT the highly commercialised circus we see on Valentines Day. It is much deeper and much more profound than sending someone a dozen roses at hugely inflated prices. It is much more than candle lit dinners and fancy chocolates.

It seems we are madly clamouring for this special day of love, as if all it takes to prove and validate our love is just one day of being nice to our partner.

It is amusing to see so many people rushing around to prove their true love for that “special” person in their life. But what happens when the roses have died and the chocolates have all been gobbled up?

The commercialism has gone so far that people are made to feel inadequate if they are on their own on Valentine’s Day.

Here is a great post from my friend and mentor Leo Babaunta about how you can get away from the commercial aspect and be romantic on the cheap.

3. Ways to be romantic on the cheap

Note that being cheap does not mean being a cheap skate, just frugal and sensible!

At the same time, why limit yourself to having some fun for just one day of the year?

4. How to make it a fun Valentine’s Day everyday

3. Give of yourself to others

This time of the year, we are bombarded with all sorts of commercial pressure to go out and spend a fortune to show the true merit of our love.

But rather than just focussing on what fancy gift you can give to your loved one, or how elaborately you can celebrate the day, why not focus on what you can actually give of yourselves. Even if you are single, it is time to give more of yourself to others.

It is really not about us anymore – it is about others and what we can do for others.

5. Valentine’s Day a time for self-less giving

I challenge you not to be moved by the superb story – “The Valentine”  – about a little boy who wrote out Valentine cards for all his school friends.

4. Love your life and create a great relationship with yourself

The key to having a great relationship and indeed a great life is to have a healthy self-image and to love yourself in a healthy way.

So just how to do you love yourself?

6. How to love yourself – the master key for your life

One of the keys to a wonderful relationship is to love your own life. And here are 77 reasons to love your life from my new blogging friend Dragos Roua.

7. 77 Reasons to love your life

Working on yourself is the most important work you can do for yourself, but what’s the most important relationship you will ever have?

8. The most important relationship you will ever have

Ultimately, remember that you have to be special to find the special one!

9. Be special to find the special one.

5. Enjoy single life

Believe it or not it is possible to be happy even if you are single. Ignore all the media hype at this time of the year and simply go and have a ball!

Here are 4 different articles, each with their own unique take on enjoying singledom, whether or not it is Valentine’s Day.

10. How to make the most of your Valentine’s Day, whether you are single or not

11. How to be single and enjoy every second

12. Advice for singles on Valentines Day – love your singledom.

13. How to be single and happy

6. Get ready for the special one

Finding “the one” seems to take up so much of our energy – and yet just how well do we prepare ourselves?

One of the keys is to let go of the past and heal yourself – literally mend a broken heart.

14. How to mend a broken heart

Of course you will not meet someone by staying at home.  So you must get yourself out there, which could be a challenge if you are shy or introverted.

15. The introverts guide to people

16. How to finally overcome shyness

The last thing you would want is to feel lonely or isolated. Just know that there are other people at a similar life stage as you who would be delighted to connect with you.

17. How to escape loneliness – 10 ways to connect with others

If you are in a hurry to become confident, then you just need 5 minutes, or less.

18. More confidence in 5 minutes or less (8 valuable tips)

And once you are out there meeting people, you want to be as attractive as possible

19. 9 free ways to instanly become more attractive

7. Find the special one

So one day you want to find “the special one”. But remember that “special” is what’s special to you – for someone else, your special person could be a ogre:-)

Do you believe in just relying on the “law of attraction” to find the one or are you willing and ready to put in some work?!

20. The law of attraction versus science

Regardless of what you believe, you really do need to get out there and meet people.

21. The 5 best places to meet that special someone

If you are a man, it would be helpful to know a bit more about the qualities women want in their men.

22. 12 qualities women want in their men

This article will also help women get clearer about the more important things to look for in a prospective partner, beyond the flashiness.

Conversely women, should be wary of some of the lies women may tell themselves.

23. Dating advice lies women tell themselves

And then of course when you meet someone, you want to know all about the perfect kiss.

24. 7 tips for the perfect kiss

8. Make your relationship the best possible

One of the foundations of all succesful and happy relationships is your communication and listening skills. It is time time to horn these skills.

25. Improving communication – 7 effective communication skills and techniques

26. Improve your relationships – listen up

It is inevitable that all relationships will have their ups and downs. But there are a keys that will make any relationship a happy one

27. 20 keys to a happy relationship

However beware of selfishness and other hidden motives under the guise of love which could poison your relationship.

28. Selfishness under the pretense of love

Be wary too of the simple ways through which you could kill your romance.

29. 10 ways we hurt our romantic relationships

If nothing else, just remember these 3 simple words from a Zen master to easily and quickly clear up any conflict or prevent things from getting worse

30. Is that so?

Quite often, the secret is to be aware of your expectations of your partner and then releasing them. You will be doing both of you a great favour.

31. The secret to peaceful relationships

Maybe it is time for you to turn a boring relationship into a party of love?

32. 10 ways to turn a boring relationship into a party of love

But if your relationship is in real trouble and dying then there are just 2 steps you need to taketo revitalise it.

33. The 2 most important steps to revitalise your relationship from death

9. Have fun in your relationship

Being in a relationship is not all about just holding hands – hopefully you will do a lot more! Do however control yourself:-)

34. Eroticism is not a competitive sport

35. Balancing sexual passion in a relationship

And there is always room for improvisation and improvement.

36. 13 ways to be a better lover

10. Marriage, commitment and small acts of kindness

So you have now met someone and you are falling or fallen in love. What next?  Well how about just letting go?

Why not just let go, make it up as you go along and give love a chance to work?

37. The one thing that makes love work

And then one day prepare for committment and marriage

38. Committment forever here and now

39. How to prepare yourself for a marriage that lasts

At the end of the day, remember never to take life too seriously and your marriage too lightly.

40. Marriage is about doctors, appointments, trivia and quirks

What we all have to remember is that romantic love may bring you and your partner together, but it is the tiny day to day acts of kindness which will allow your relationship to flourish and grow.

“Dating is about grand romantic gestures that mean little over the long term. Marriage is about small acts of kindness that bond you over a lifetime”. – Lori Gottlieb, author of “Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough”

Always rememer that there is enough love in each of our hearts to heal the world, and not just our own personal relationship. We have simply forgotten this as we all strive to get bigger, better and to get somewhere. But usually when we get there and have these things, we find forlorn emptiness.

“Love doesn’t leave you but you leave love”

So from this Valentine’s day onwards, focus on creating the best relationship you can, not only with yourself, but also with your partner.

If you have not yet found the “love of your life”, then you have all the tools and wisdom here in this article to help you do just that.

My desire and my fondest wish is that this Valentine’s day, you find your own love, within you and around you. And then spread it.

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