Do you go through life feeling unlucky?
And are you superstitious of Friday the 13th?
Friday the 13th, is here yet again and for some people it comes around all too quickly.
There is even a name for the fear of Friday the 13th – paraskavedekatriaphobia, a word derived from the concatenation of the Greek words for Friday, thirteen, and phobia.
It is also spelt in various different ways – paraskevodekatriaphobia or paraskevidekatriaphobia or friggatriskaidekaphobia.
Due to the quirks of our calendar, Friday the 13th comes around once every 6 to 10 months – and for various reasons in many cultures this day is considered to be of bad luck.
Apparently some people even refuse to get out of bed in case any bad luck strikes them!
I wrote a while about how to make your own luck even on Friday the 13th.
Today what I would like to consider is what makes some people just luckier than others – and how you can be one of them.
“People always call it luck when you’ve acted more sensibly than they have.” – Anne Tyler
You know the type I mean – the ones for whom everything always works out well, who are always happy and smiling and they go through life with a skip.
Unlike the people who stay in bed all day on Friday the 13th, these people go through life with a breeze and they go out and make it happen for themselves and others.
“Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.” – Lucius Annaeus Seneca
You never hear them moan, nothing is too much of a challenge and they are a delight to be around.
Too good to be true?
Here’s how you too can be one of them:-
1. Stop believing in superstitions.
Friday the 13th is considered unlucky by many people for various reasons, but others consider it to be lucky!
So my point is stop believing in unsubstantiated superstitions. My logical mind cannot see how your fortune can be related to the stars, the day of the week or which side of the bed you got out of.
Maybe one day it will be proved otherwise to me, but for now I believe in a simple logical view of the world.
As for my friend Eduard Ezeanu said, stop believing in undocumented superstitions – you can easily create a self fulfilling prophecy just by believing Friday the 13th is bad luck.
So be prepared to question your own superstitious beliefs and challenge them.
For example, next time you go past a ladder propped up against a wall in the street, deliberately walk underneath it. Start breaking away from your chains of superstitions.
2. Don’t let your religious beliefs hold you back from giving your best.
This leads me to a really key point – do your religious beliefs lead you to see life with a fatalistic viewpoint?
Do you believe that no matter what you do or don’t do, your life is destined to turn out a certain way because of some past life or even current life misdeeds? So you might as well not bother trying too hard?
Are you living your life based on the principle of karma from the past, or cause and effect in this lifetime?
If so, I respect your viewpoint. However, be sure to distinguish between superstitions based on religious mumbo jumbo and real scientific facts.
Coming from a Hindu background, I have been exposed to the concept of karma from past lives and how in this life I had to make up for past digressions. Also I had to be “good” in this lifetime so as to be luckier next time around. (actually I can’t even imagine being even luckier than I am now).
However I have come to my own understanding that I am here right now, and I have enough challenges and things to do in this life time rather than having to look back on what happened in previous lives.
And whilst I am here I shall lead the best life I can, do my best for myself and others, and not worry about past or future lives:-)
You don’t to suffer to have a great life – remember that no pain, no gain is just a myth.
3. Just do it.
I have come to the gradual realisation that the people who succeed and make it happen in their life are the ones who just do it.
“We must believe in luck. For how else can we explain the success of those we don’t like?” Jean Cocteau
There is only so much navel gazing you can do, only so many personal development seminars you can attend and only so many gurus you can bow down to.
There comes a time when you just have to take action and make it happen.
“Shallow men believe in luck. Strong men believe in cause and effect.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Clearly you need to be out there in the world amongst people if you are to attract lucky things in your life. But there has been a whole school of thinking built up around the law of attraction and how you just had to visualise something and then sit back expecting good things to fall in your lap.
Yes, it is good to get clarity about what you want and visualise what you want, but you still have to get off your backside!
As my friend Karol Gajda wrote recently:-
But he said it a bit more colourfully than I did!
“Good luck is another name for tenacity of purpose.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
“I am a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work the more I have of it.” – Thomas Jefferson
4. Look to help others where you can.
A key to success for creating your luck is to look out for opportunities to help others. That will focus your mind away from any perceptions of bad luck you may have but more importantly create good will towards you.
Of course, doing things for others will also make you feel good about yourself.
You can do something simple like introducing a friend to someone who can help him/her such a plumber.
Of course random acts of kindness are always welcome – here are 29 simple ways to carry out random acts of kindness every day.
I am sure you can come up with more of your own.
At the same time, don’t become a doormat either whereby others take advantage of you. Maintain your boundaries and be alert to people who are taking you for a ride.
5. Create new connections – it’s so easy now
With the advent of social media, you now have access to people all over the people with the resources and expertise to help you with anything you want.
You will now never be short of finding someone who can change your luck and help you achieve whatever you want.
Learn about the zen of social media marketing and how to make it happen.
Also, if you choose to do so, you can create and cultivate myriad friendships with like minded people, who will not only enrich your life, but you will never again be short of someone to bounce ideas of.
6. Look out for opportunities all around you
They say the streets are laden with gold, but firstly I have never seen this gold and more importantly, I don’t know who “they” are and I have never met them! Not yet anyway.
People who are seen to be lucky are open to experimenting, being out there and trying new things.
My point is that there are opportunities for new business and work all around us. There are also opportunities in other areas of your life such as potential relationship partners, new friends, new things to try out and so on.
There is so much richness and opportunities all around you for “changing” your luck. Just be openly on the lookout for them.
7. Follow your intuition
We all have lucky hunches but often do you follow them through?
As you look out for new ideas and opportunities, learn to follow your intuition. Listen in to that sixth sense and literally follow your gut instinct.
A few weeks, I met a friend of a friend at a social event, who was very keen to meet up to discuss some mutual business ideas and called to meet later the same day. My instinct kicked in and I suggested we met a few days later at a neutral venue.
Sure enough his business proposition just didn’t resonate with my values and by listening to my intuition I avoided wasting a lot of time and energy – which I could then devote to more fruitful and resonant stuff.
Give luck a chance to find you.
8. Cultivate a positive attitude – always look on the bright side
Nothing beats having a positive cheerful outlook.
No matter what is going on for you, by adopting a more positive approach to life will bring forth better circumstances sooner rather than later.
Granted – stuff will happen but of course it’s up to you to choose how to interpret these things.
“The only thing that overcomes hard luck is hard work” – Harry Golden
Expect good things to happen to you – and they will.
Remember to lighten up and light up the world.
And yes, always look on the bright side:-
9. Learn from the past
It’s a dumb to keep doing the same things again and again and expect things to change.
So learn from your mistakes and do things differently so as to “change” your luck.
Take courage, let go of the past, learn and move on. You know it makes sense.
“A pound of pluck is worth a ton of luck” – James A. Garfield
10. Have a zest for life and always do your best
Cultivate a zest for life – and then no matter what happens in your life, you will always have the energy and resources to come back again smiling as ever.
Along with zest for life comes always doing your best
“Luck is what you have left over after you give 100 percent” – Langston Coleman
11. Live with an attitude of gratitude
Finally, be grateful for what you already in your life.
Simply look around at all the things to be grateful in your life and learn to live with an attitude of gratitude.
Remember that life is a miracle – indeed live your life as if everything is a miracle – and you will be well on your way to be always lucky.
Everyday is a miracle and a lucky day.
If you just pause and think about it, you are already very lucky to be even alive and have all the amazing things in your life.
Yes, perhaps you maybe just need to fine tune one or two things, but overall what you already have is amazing.
Never again curse your luck – and especially not on Friday the 13th.
So this Friday 13th, this day of paraskavedekatriaphobia, rather than hiding under a bed, take on the world and go out to make your own luck.
You know it makes sense.
PS I was going to wish you the best of luck, but you know you don’t need it!
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