Have you ever suffered great sadness?
Has life dealt you such a blow that you wondered if you’ll ever recover?
Every day we face so many challenges in our daily lives which can knock us out of our stride and daily routine.
Yet in the greater scheme of things, what most of us consider to be a challenge is usually nothing!
So what if your train to work was late or you got stuck in traffic on your way to an “important” meeting!?
What I am talking about here is life changing events and challenges that we sometimes face.
For example, in the last few weeks, I have had a friend losing her elderly mother after a long illness during which she lost most of her faculties. It was so painful for my friend to see her mother deteriorate like this – she felt so helpless and sad as nature took its course.
Another friend I saw over Xmas after a year, has just made a full recovery from a serious illness after a year’s intense treatment. During that time she became a hermit and cut communications with most people and it was heartening to see her looking so good and healthy.
And today, I received a very moving and yet heart-warming email from a friend whose newly born baby boy is seriously ill and faces a number of operations.
I have often written here on my blog about making the most of our life and our time on this planet. And I have also talked about how there’s always a brighter side to everything and how we should always try and be positive.
A while ago I wrote about how to suffer excruciating pain and live again.
The point is this – life can be so tragic and yet so inspiring and uplifting.
What is the greater meaning behind all this suffering and pain?
If you believe in a greater power – god, source, energy, universe or whatever you choose to call it – why does this greater power allow such things to happen!?
I always remember the closing line in this famous story about baseball kids allowing a physically challenged boy called Shay to join their game and hit the winning run.
At the end of that story, Shay’s father says with tears rolling down his face –
‘That day ‘the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world’.
So this is really what it is all about.
Your life and mine is all about bringing a piece of true love and humanity into this world.
Period. Nothing else matters.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi
A few weeks ago, Caroline McGraw, a friend from the other side of the pond sent me details of her new book called Love’ Subversive Stance – Ground Yourself & Grow in Relationship.
The book is all about growing in love in all our relationships. And surely, at the end of the day, that’s all that matters.
Caroline writes so beautifully about her relationship with her younger brother Willie who has autism and is considered by the world to have an “intellectual disability”.
On her blog, Caroline writes about finding meaning in our most challenging relationships and in her book she outlines how when we love someone with an intellectual disability, that loving changes us.
Her book teaches us about how we can truly learn about ourselves through our relationships – and the end result is we become a better and more loving person. And the whole world is a better place:-).
We are not who we once were and we are ready for more.
“The grace of God means something like:
Here is your life. You might never have been, but
you are because the party wouldn’t have been
complete without you.”
~Frederick Buechner, Wishful Thinking
At the end of the day, this is what it really comes down to – we humans are such powerful beings and we are capable of facing any heart- rending challenges.
We can face and overcome anything – and best of all we are capable of showing such deep and intense compassion and kindness that it breaks one’s heart (if that’s ever possible since our hearts are SO big).
The take way from this post is this – part of the human condition is to suffer heart-rending pain, go through the loss of loved ones and face umpteen other challenges in the course of our lives.
Ultimately we get to discover who we really are!
And the moment we dare to be vulnerable and we reveal our true selves, the journey becomes easier and indeed even joyful.
I wish all of you well on this amazing journey of life.
Check out Caroline’s book here.
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