How to Master the Art of Saying Thank You

Master the Art of Saying Thank You

Do you say “thank you” like you mean it or do you just say it casually and almost apologetically?

And when you thank someone, just how appreciative are you really being?

Today, 11th January 2017 is International Thank You Day!

So firstly, thank you for being in my life and for reading my blog posts :-).

There is an art of saying thank you and mastering this one skill will instantly make your day to day interactions with people deeper and richer.

The key is very simple – you really have to mean it when you say thank you!

People get it when you genuinely mean something and also when you are just going through the motions.

Put yourself on the receiving end of being thanked – I bet you remember well the few times when someone has truly shown their appreciation.

I shall always remember the day when I invited a new friend for dinner and she asked if she could bring something – I simply suggested she brought a huge appetite.

She turned up laden with gifts – a thank you card, flowers, a bottle of wine and something for dessert! It was so thoughtful and unexpected; to this day I still share her story like I am doing right now.

The most beautiful thing about truly thanking someone and expressing your gratitude is that it creates a deeper and instant bond between people.

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101 Ways to Make It Happen and Rock your World

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How is your life going? 

What’s missing in your life? And what are you doing about it?

If you are like most people, you are having another day of challenges, deadlines and being overwhelmed. Or worse still, you are having another day of boredom. And despair.

Just what happened to all your childhood dreams? How did they get vanquished and forgotten over time?

Pause for a moment and look around the world you live in today.  Turn on the daily news and all you get is more doom and gloom around you.

The world seems to face so many challenges that you might despair and feel completely hapless as to just what one individual like you can do. Especially when you have so much going on in your own life.

Just where do you begin to create the sort of life you want, and to live in the type of world you want?

Where does one begin from this point?

The answer is actually quite simple – you begin exactly where you are at right now.

Your future and all the things you desire, dream of, wish for and want to create don’t exist anywhere other than here, right now.

That future is created here and now – not just for yourself but for those around you.

It’s simply all about you deciding to change – and choosing to make it happen for yourself and the world.

You see in life, you are either reacting or creating. Always.

Next time you are in a crowd in any setting – social, family or work, notice how people are either complaining about something or ranting.

On much rarer occasions,  the conversation is about moving forward, resolving challenges and heaven behold, even about creating something majestic and lasting!

So are you going to be reacting and ranting – or stepping up and creating?

Your life transforms the moment you choose to transform. The moment you decide that enough is enough and you are going to make it happen for yourself.

That time is here now.The time to rock your world.

It is time for you to step up and be the sort of person you have always wanted to be – and be the leader you know you were born to be. And then one day you too can rest in eternity, just like one of the greatest human beings who ever lived.

I have worked hard enough, so I can now rest in eternity” – Nelson Mandela

You too can aspire to be a “Nelson Mandela” too!

Yes, quite a challenge, but why not?

Mr Mandela has left quite a legacy – and you can begin to walk in his footsteps by adopting some of his lessons in leadership.

So where do you even begin to follow in Mr Mandela’s footsteps? You start by first making your own life the best you can – a life based on high moral and ethical values.

At the same time, you do your best for the world around you and you create our legacy.

To help you get started, I have created a treasure collection of my all-time, best life-changing articles I have ever written. This is an extra-ordinary anthology to help you get more out of all areas of your life and to make it happen.

I looked through all the almost 600 blog posts I have written over 8 years and I have picked out what I consider the best 101 articles.

It was quite a challenge to pick these out and organise them into one post but this has been a labour of love for me – and I sincerely hope you get a lot from the 101 articles below. These are life-changing articles you can return to again and again.

I have put them under some relevant categories but there’s clearly a lot of crossover.

I suggest you read a few articles at a time and bookmark the ones that resonate with you – and please do share them. It would be a crime not to share these life-changing “secrets” :-).

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Why It Makes Sense to do Good Every Day

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Happy Thanksgiving Day everyone!

Wherever you are in the word today, I wish you all the best for today even if you are not celebrating this tradition of thanks giving marked in so many countries and cultures around the wold.

I love the idea of having a special day of thanks giving whereby we can express our gratitude for all that’s good in our lives.

At the same time, living with an attitude of gratitude all the time is something we can all cultivate.

Having once experienced Thanksgiving Day with my brother and his family in the USA, I know what a special day it is for so many people around the USA.

On this day, in theory anyway, we get to see all that’s good in our lives and in the world – and for a few hours we connect with our own greatness. Bit like Xmas Day, except a few weeks earlier.

Then we get back to being our “normal” grumpy and stressed selves!

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if every day were to be like this, a day of goodness, gratitude and appreciation!?

At the same time, I feel that people are forgetting the original meaning of this thanksgiving celebration. Even in the UK over the last few years, Black Friday and Cyber Monday have been marked with a buying frenzy and special deals – so you can buy more of the stuff that you didn’t really need or want in the first place!

And the focus seems to have shifted more to eating, drinking and getting merry – and away from thankfulness and appreciating what we have.

I’ll stop myself there before I start ranting!

Let me walk my talk, by thanking all of you who have continued to read my blog and followed me despite my infrequent postings and multiple cyber disappearances. It is you who inspire me and make me want to become a better human being. Without you and the other people in my life, I am nothing.

Thank you for allowing me to contribute to you – and please know that I continue to aspire to serve you more. And together we can and we WILL make this an even better world.

Also, during this week of Thanksgiving, please remember that no matter what challenges you may be facing in your life, we all have so much to be grateful for.

So why does it make sense to do good every day, and not just on some special day like today?

As Mother Teresa said, do good anyway, no matter what.

People are often unreasonable and self-centred. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway.” – Mother Teresa

If you look around, the world faces umpteen challenges today and it’s really time for us to rise to the challenge and make it happen for a better world for all us. At the same time we have to make the most of our own lives and make the most of what we all have.

This morning, we had a tragic reminder of the need to make the most of each day and our limited time on earth.  Australian cricketer Phil Hughes passed away, 2 days after being hit on the head with the ball. A reminder of just how fragile and delicate our lives are – and yet so precious.

Life is indeed so precious and it breaks my heart every time I hear about more senseless killings and deaths.

Of course it is not how or when you die, but ultimately what matters is how you lived your life – and the legacy you created.

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11 Key Lessons from Gandhi for Leading a Powerful Life of Commitment

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This week was the 145th anniversary of the birth of Mahatma Gandhi, one of the greatest human beings who ever lived.

If you have never heard of Gandhi, where have you been!?

As Einstein said:-

Generations to come, it may well be, will scarcely believe that such a man as this one ever in flesh and blood walked upon this Earth.” – Einstein

As regular readers will know, Gandhi is one of my all-time heroes and I have written a number of key articles about his life and his message.

Indeed, this post about lessons in life from a 140 year old man is one of the most popular posts on my blog.

Do also check out the following 3 posts:

1. Gandhi the Ultimate Minimalist

2. Let Your Life your Be your Message

3. Lessons in Peace from Sammy, also known as Gandhi

Being a keen and ardent student of people, I have always being intrigued by what makes a “Gandhi” a Gandhi?

What made him so committed to his cause that he changed the lives of millions of people and his legacy still lives on in the world today?

And what makes it so that the majority of us can’t even get committed to our own well-being?

What is Commitment?

Firstly, let’s get clear what we mean by commitment.

The state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity etc” – Oxford Dictionary

Please understand that what I mean by commitment in this context is not just another word you throw around loosely – but a way of being and something you take on being for the rest of your life. Just like Gandhi did.

Commitment is an act, not a word.” – Jean-Paul Sartre

Commitment is about declaring your word to something bigger than you.

For this life-changing article, the real question is really not about what Gandhi and others like him have achieved in their life – but what made him and them stand out from the rest of us?

So this is really an inquiry about what allows you and me to be totally committed to what we say we are committed to.

And as a backdrop, I’ll use Gandhi’s life as an illustration of what he was committed to – and how he changed the world as a result.

I learnt a lot about the power of commitment when I recently came across The Deuce Story – all about how an American Footballer transformed overnight after declaring his commitment to be the #1 player in his position.

Deuce’s story partly prompted me to write this post – he literally became an overnight sensation. All after just one powerful, chance conversation with Steve Hardison, the Ultimate Coach.

Yes, that’s the power of thinking big coaching. :-).

Ironically, Deuce’s story is also an illustration of how one’s commitment has to be renewed daily. He flopped just as quickly as his star had risen.

You see not even the ultimate coach can empower you, if you don’t take action to renew your commitment on a daily basis.

To use this analogy in my own life, I too have had many false starts. By way of writing this first blog post after a few weeks break, I am renewing my commitment to serve you through my words and by sharing my insights about life.

In the words of Steve Hardison, I am here to:-

“Be Me, Be Love and Be in Service”.

BeYouBeLoveBeOfService

 

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The #1 Secret to Get Ultimate Happiness in Your Life

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Happy International Happiness Day everyone!

So just how happy are you in your life?

And just how much happiness is there around you?

Today is the day decreed by the UN for universal happiness and this is the second year of this day happening.

So to start with, here are my 17 tips to become happy right now.

And no matter where you are at in your life, always look on the bright side of life!

But just what is happiness – and how can you sustain these feelings of happiness?

Is happiness what you feel when your favourite football team wins? Only for you to get really upset when they get thrashed the following week?

Or is happiness the feelings you get after a night out with your friends and drinking beer and feasting on your favourite dishes?

Or is happiness being with your loved ones and seeing your little child at play?

I believe that happiness is all of the above – and is much more. The challenge comes when we see happiness as transient and dependent on external factors as in the above examples.

So how can you sustain happiness and how can you generate it from within you, no matter what’s going on in your external world?

Let me explain a bit more by sharing what’s going on for me right now.

It was my birthday yesterday and what an amazing day it was!

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Why You Should Never Ever Underestimate the Impact of Your Kindness

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Happy Thanksgiving Week everyone!

This week, as is the tradition in the USA and other countries around the world, people are celebrating with their families and loved ones. And here in London, over the last few years, thanksgiving is being celebrated more and more. I feel it’s a truly wonderful way of getting reconnected to what really matters in our lives.

Thanksgiving Week is a reminder for us all to live with an Attitude of Gratitude

As we look back this week at our lives and be thankful for all the goodness around us, we can also remember all the little kindnesses that make our lives so wonderful and worthwhile.

At the same time, we should also look at the kindnesses we have carried out for others, whose impact though not immediately obvious can be far reaching and hugely significant.

There are so many ways to randomly make a difference to people – check out my 31 ways to carry out random acts of kindness every day.

So many times in our life, people show us great kindness and yet are not even aware of the impact they have had on us and others as a result of their kind deed.

This week I have been looking back on my own life and reflecting on all the little kindnesses that people have shown me over the years. There are a couple of life changing experiences of kindness which I’ll never forget and which continue to drive me to share more of such kindness and spread the goodness,

To start with there was the kind Mr Roy – this diminutive  Indian man was instrumental in starting my real life journey and who completely changed my life and that of others 16 years ago.

He showed me how to be kind to others and get to your own Nirvana.

Please do check out the story of how in just a few hours he transformed my life and ultimately that of thousands of Nirvana School children.

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How I Got My Mojo Back – and Now So Can You!

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Have you ever wondered what you are doing on this planet? And why?

I have been asking myself the same questions lately – and I have to be honest – I still haven’t got much of a clue!

I always seem to do a lot of soul searching at this time of the year. And that’s because today is my birthday. Yes, I am officially a year younger today!

Of course, I’ll never ever be a grownup – I mean WHY would you ever want to grow up anyway?

My late grandfather always used to mock our birthday celebrations by saying that it was nuts to celebrate a birthday – it just meant you were that much nearer to your ultimate demise i.e. death.

So you may even think it’s kind of taboo talking of death on my birthday. But in some spiritual circles they suggest that you “die” at the end of every day – and every morning you are reborn. In which case you and I have already died and been reborn thousands of times!

Before we go any further, I have something for you – a birthday gift from me to you:-).

In my last blog post, which was about how to be outrageous and change the world, I announced the launch of my Kindle book “Get a Life”. Well, it’s FREE today and tomorrow on Amazon.

Please go and get your copy from here ASAP – get your copy from here – Amazon.Com / Amazon.Co.UK

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I hope you get a lot of value from “Get a Life” – it was the first book I ever published and it’s a simpler version of my Amazon best-seller “Get the Life you Love”.

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Follow Your Intuition and Change your Life

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Have you ever had a powerful urge to do something and you had wondered why?

What would your life be like if everything you did had a greater purpose to help yourself and those around you?

If you are like me, you too may often get an inner urge to do something and then wonder why. But you’ll ultimately only know what it’s all about, if you followed up and gave it a chance.

And most likely you will find that it was all about helping someone!

Let me share a couple of recent examples.

A few weeks ago I was travelling on the London Underground train system. In a very quintessential English way, we call our underground train system – the “tube”. For obvious reasons!

So when someone in London asks you if you are “taking the tube”, they are asking if you are travelling on the underground train system.

I had to change tubes to get to my destination and this time I chose a different route. I felt I just had to go one particular way, even though it was a longer route.

Something inside me seemed to be guiding me.

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Be Bold and Make It Happen in Just 30 Days!

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So how is 2013 going for you?

What’s happened to your New Year resolutions?

By this time in January, most resolutions and goals for 2013 will have been discarded and forgotten for another year. Be honest – is that the case with you!?

Quite often this is because the goals were not inspiring or bold enough.

Today it’s snowing heavily in London and on days like this one may wonder what it’s all about and why one should even ponder on grand things like changing your life for the better and pursuing life goals.

What I have learnt from myself and coaching clients is this – the bigger and bolder the goal, the more you are likely to achieve it!

The moment you commit to a bigger game, the small things in your life just drop away.

In my coaching work with various clients, I am meeting more and more people who really want to play big and at the same time make a huge contribution to the world.

Just by you reading this post shows that you are willing to go further and make big steps in your life.

“The willingness to show up changes us, it makes us a little braver each time.”  – Brene Brown

You deserve the best – and you deserve every opportunity to shine in a big way.

So today I am delighted to share with you a new course that will truly help you play bold in 2013 from my friend Tess Marshall. It’s the sort of value-filled and quality course which I wish I had created myself!

I took the opportunity to fire off a few questions to Tess, so she could tell us more about her course 30 Days of Bold.

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50 Ways Coaches and YOU Can Change the World!

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Can you remember ONE moment in time when your life changed forever?

Some of you may have heard stories of people who had an epiphany moment and their lives were never the same again. They then simply up their roots, follow their calling and decide to take on the world on their own terms.

Well, that’s just what it happened to me over 10 years ago when I was visiting Nirvana School in South India. Ever since I experienced unconditional love for the first time in my life, I have been a transformed human being.

Do check out the full story of exactly what happened to me that day. The rest is history as my involvement with Nirvana School ultimately led me to pursue a career in coaching, writing, blogging, publishing books and public speaking.

So my personal transformation has impacted not only the Nirvana School children but the many people who have read my books, subscribed to my blog and have been personally coached by me.

Never under-estimate the power of a single moment!

We can all do so much for the world around us if we choose to do so.

And we can all dramatically improve our own life if we really want to.

Recently, when I was looking back on this year and planning for 2013, I got present to just how much I enjoyed coaching and transforming people’s lives. And I intent to take my coaching practice to a new level in 2013.

More on that later but this brings me on nicely to today’s blog post and to one of my mentors from 10 years ago when I first got into this thing called “coaching”.

C. J. Hayden is one of the most experienced coaches in the world – thousands of other coaches have benefited from her pioneering work and deep experience of what it takes to coach powerfully.

She approached me earlier this year asking if I wanted to contribute to her new book – “50 Ways Coaches Can Change the World” (Amazon USA / Amazon UK)

Of course I jumped at the opportunity – it was an honour and privilege to be asked to be amongst 50 coaches from around the world featured in her book.

The result is a stunning little book packed with literally hundreds of ideas for you and me to change the world. Despite what the title may indicate, the book is aimed for everyone and not just coaches – it’s a little “bible” and compilation of ideas to help you make a difference in the world.

To me it shows once again that you don’t need to be a “coach” to change the world – you just need the desire and willingness to do so!

So please do check out the book online (Amazon USA / Amazon UK) – and let me know how you get on.

($1 from each copy sold will be donated to the International Coach Federation Foundation )

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