Do you hold back from showing up at your best? Or do you strut your stuff like a proud peacock?
So often I have played small for fear of being considered egotistical, a showoff or simply a smartass.
Also coming from an Indian background it was instilled in me to be humble at most times and not to be “loud” or forthcoming.
Reminds me of this famous quote by Winston Churchill about one of his political opponents:-
“He is a humble man with a lot to be humble about!”
However, what I am finding is that we can take this being humble and self-effacing thing a bit too far!
The other extreme to being a peacock is to be apologetic and literally hiding in case you caused a stir or ruffled any feathers.
However, just remember those famous words from Marianne Williamson – who are you to not let your light shine.
I was having a chat with a lifecoach friend earlier on today and she picked up on this point with me. She explained how she saw this in many people in that they choose to hold back rather than shining.
She even went as far as saying that I too was holding back and it was time I allowed my own light to shine!
This conversation has really made me reflect and see where in my life I am holding back. Though by most people’s standards I do a lot, I am out there and I am involved in a number of projects, I do believe that I am indeed holding myself back quite a bit.
I could be doing a lot more to get my message out there via my blogging, social media, coaching etc. And yet…
My friend suggested I asked myself this powerful question on a daily, ongoing basis:-
What will it take for more of me to show up?
The answers for letting more of my light shine will then naturally show up – I just had to follow up. By continuing to be in inquiry like this, I will soon be glowing:-)
The question now is what will take for more of you to show up?
Here is a simple exercise for you to find out.
Stop here for 5 minutes of reflection and ask yourself these 2 questions:-
1. Where in my life am I holding back from being the best I can?
If you come up with more than one area, then choose just one area, the one that is the most important to you.
Then reflect further:-
2. What one single thing can I do today that will allow more of me to show up?
Keep asking yourself these 2 questions – and you will soon be on a path of continual excellence without having to apologise for it.
Of course letting your light shine and being the best you can does not necessarily mean that you become aloof, proud and cocky.
You still must continue to come from a space of grounded humility. What I mean by this is that you become comfortable in your excellence and expertise, and not self-effacing in anyway.
It is time really for all of us to be the best we can be – and be proud of it. After all, the world today more than ever before, needs everyone to shine their light.