Do you ever just try too hard?
And do you sometimes feel that you are banging your head against a wall?
Fresh from my breakfast the other day with a really simple guy, yesterday I had an email from Mike Dooley of Thoughts Become Things.
Mike has created this fabulous resource, the TUT Adventurer’s Club, through which you get daily messages from “The Universe”.
I subscribe to his daily thoughts from the universe – and his message for the day was simply this:-
“Stop thinking that you have to make it happen, arvind, and let it happen…
That you have to be better, and be yourself…
That I’ve ever judged you, and be free.
– The Universe
I have probably never received a more timely email!
Here I was, trying to make it happen in my life and helping others to do the same – and yet maybe I was just trying too hard!
Though I would like to think I am building up my projects steadily and not frantically, maybe it was just time for me to also simply be and let things happen.
Only a couple of weeks I wrote about how we are all enough. Yet we can all get so involved and focussed on making something work – when all we have to do is relax to make it happen.
And who are we to argue with the universe!?
So point for you to consider today and everyday:-
Where in your life can you just let it happen?
Note that this is not a call for you to do nothing and just sit back! Instead, simply be clear when you are getting frantic or just trying too hard.
Do relax and sit back, but at the same time be clear about what you need to do to make it happen.
(Major breakthrough for me – – not every blog article has to be a megabuster or full of a dozen tips! Keep it simple)
Please do share below your thoughts and how you will just chill and hang out a bit more rather than banging your head against a wall…
Top Image courtesy of Giuseppe Bognanni
Arvind, I love the titles you come up with for your posts! This one reminds me of what insane things we sometimes do when we don’t really consider the options we have 🙂
Eduard, great to find you on here again. Welcome!
I particularly liked this heading myself since it sums up nicely what the article is about. And it goes nicely with the image too.
You are so right, we all do some crazy things whereas most of the time we actually don’t need to do anything.
Very true Arvind.
So many times when we are up against a brick wall there is another approach.
First I determine whether it is a wall that I have made. Second, is it a circumstance that I can change and then finally, do I accept it for what it is or go around it?
I learnt a lesson from a wise old man many years ago. He said if you are faced with a wall, do not bang your head against it because you will only get a headache. Rather go over, around or if you have to dig under it.
Unfortunately many of us give up when the going gets tough and then we sit in a prison that 4 brick walls make.
Better to chill out and take another look.
The Berlin wall stood for years until society changed their minds and broke it down.
Hi again Andrea – thanks for your comments. You always seem to be one of the first people to comment on my blog – how do you do it?!
Thanks for sharing your strategy of getting over hurdles. In the first place, even knowing whether its a wall you created is a smart move. Clearly you can then draw up a more logical plan which is likely to succeed.
I love it – rather banging your head against a wall, instead go over, around or if you have to, dig under it!
Great reminder about the Berlin wall and how it ultimately came down. The top image above reminds me of how things must have like in Berlin over 20 years ago.
A lesson that’s hard for me to remember is that there are no value judgements in life. Making it happen is a great idea. Letting it happen is a great idea, too. There’s nothing you MUST do, but sometimes one course of action or another seems a better choice at the moment.
Whatever course of action you take or whatever path you take in life, it’s the right one.
Gip, letting it happen – now that could be an entirely differnt blog altogether!
In a way, I agree with you when you say that whatever course of action you take or whatever path you take in life, it’s the right one. However this should not be at the detriment of your health, loss of key relationships and a compromise of your core values. Which is why pausing and taking stock rather than relentlessly moving forward to make it happen is not always the best course of action.
I should know – I do this quite often. Or should I say, I used to do this:-)
I finally caught up on your last 2 posts! I like the sound of out chilling out. Every post does not need to be best, simple from heart will do.
Preeti, welcome back – and as you say, writing from the heart will do wonders for your post.
What a wonderfully appropriate post … thankyou so so much!
I am in the business of trying to relax and let it happen. Of course nothing happens when you try; then I get a gentle reminder like this wonderful post and it floats me back to my place – so now I will just relax and let it happen. Forego that trying thing – it never really works anyway 😉
Kat, I am glad you found this post timely.
Like you, I am learning to relax and let it happen – this runs contrary to my instinctual need to make it happen. So lets both find the nearest wall and hang out for a bit:-)
I struggle with this situation often. I strive to maintain a creative frame of mind instead of a competative one. It can be hard to feel like we have plenty of time and not be rushed, though this is so necessary to stay in an optimal frame of mind where we believe things will turn out as desired.
Welcome to my blog Joe.
You have raised an important point – the need to feel we have plenty of time and therefore not be rushed and keep banging our head against the wall.
So the trick is to believe that things will turn out as desired, no matter what – time to relax and let go our in-born anxiety.
I love the messages from “the Universe”..I look forward to receiving them and fidn they are always timely…However..*that* is because I choose to acknowledge and incorporate the messages..messages I receive in all forms, not just that particular email. I know that you choose the same..
As you point out, there is a time t stop ‘doing” and to allow for “be-ing”…I believe my physical life follows that of the natural unfolding in nature and the cycles of Earth..when I find myself struggling or less than peace filled, that is my sign to stop, sit back, and allow for natural unfolding..Life should be peace filled, delight filled, joy filled..not an uphill climb..
Thank you for sharing your insights..may All who read sit back and allow..
Joy, welcome to my blog – I love your name and your blog – all about joy:-)
As you say, it’s about choosing to acknowledge and incorporate the messages we receive in all forms and not just those emails from Mike Dooley.
There is a time to stop doing and just being – and funnily enough I myself am reviewing my life right now. Maybe I need to do a lot less and just be a lot more. As you say, I should sit back and allow.