If I asked you who was the most important person in your life, what would you say?
Would it be your partner, your parents, your children, your boss or even your god?
From today onwards, I invite you to accept that in your lifetime, the most important relationship you will have is with yourself.
And the most important person in your life is YOU.
I recently read somewhere that it would make your life so much easier if only you could accept that everyone else is after what’s in it for them. Yes, even the dearest and closest people in your life.
Now this is not to advocate being totally selfish and a nasty person. But knowing that everyone is thinking about themselves first, also gives you permission to focus on what you want and your dreams.
This is the second of my 28 day series of articles for February about relationships. Please check out the first article here:-
You can read all 28 articles which are listed at the bottom of this post.
After my first article in this series, in the comments section, a lot of people explained how self-love and self-care was most important to them.
So some people do seem to understand the importance of loving yourself. But what does that actually mean?
What would it be like to have in your life someone who loved you like no one else ever has?
- Someone who approves of you.
- Someone who makes you feel so special.
- Someone who loves you just the way you are.
- Someone in whose eyes you can do no wrong.
- Someone who doesn’t look at your past failings.
- Someone who worships you and thinks that you rock.
- Someone in whose presence the world seems so right.
- Someone who makes you feel like you are floating on air.
- Someone who makes you feel unstoppable – nothing can stop you.
- Someone who doesn’t allow you to have guilt feelings from your past.
- Someone who knows you really well, but still accepts you just the way you are.
Doesn’t being with this person just sound so delicious and yummy?
Wouldn’t you like to meet such a person – someone who would sweep you off your feet?
You Already Have this Person in Your Life – and That is You!
Only you can love yourself the way no one else can. And yet this is the hardest thing for most people!
Does this sound like you?
You beat yourself up and your negative self talk kills you. You eat junk food and drink, and then wonder why you are ill. Don’t even get me started on smoking!
You get into draining relationships and you work in jobs which don’t fulfil you. You push yourselves to the limit and become hard taskmasters, driving some of you to an early grave.
You find faults in yourself and you find yourself as lacking.
And yet remember this – you are unique – there is no one like you in this world and never will be.
Get ready for the love affair of your life.
Go and have a look in the mirror.
And see the one who loves you like no other!
Daily Exercise for Today
I want you to allow 10 mins for this exercise. Ideally early in the morning or just before you go to sleep.
Go and have a look at yourself in the mirror. Get as close to the mirror as you can – and look into your own eyes. What do you see?
Continue to look into your own eyes, no matter what emotions or thoughts come up. Continue for as long as you can till you can do so for 10 mins. Blinking is allowed!
I have found this to be a very powerful exercise for connecting with your own greatness and also the vulnerable you.
Do this exercise for a month, and watch in amazement as your life gets transformed.
Please do share below your experience and how you felt.
(You can also take this exercise to the next level by staring into the eyes of another person – but I’ll talk more about this later in the month)
28 Day Relationship Adventure
Postscript – Here are the complete 28 articles in this series from February 2011.
Please do check them all out:-)
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