stop judging this wolf man!Do you go through life judging other people all the time?

Or do you accept and love people just as they are?

For instance, have a good look at this image of a man holding a bike helmet. Take your time.

What judgements did you just pass on him?!

Maybe you immediately thought he was fat and needed to lose some weight. Maybe he could do with a shave.

Or perhaps you just don’t like bikers and all sorts of judgemental thoughts went through your mind.

Okay, I am making my point here – but as human beings, we are “judgement making machines” – constantly making our assumptions about how the world should be.

We become judge and jury and arrogantly assume that the world should be the way we dictate.

However, all your relationships will be almost instantly transformed if you were to simply let others be and get on with your own life.

This is Day 21 of our “28 Day Relationships Adventure (DRA)” in February. You can read the previous 20 articles by following the links at the bottom of this post.

Today I want to briefly share with you a short but powerful anecdotal story of two wolves:-

One evening an old Cherokee Indian told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.

He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all.

One is Evil –  It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

“The other is Good – It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”

The old Cherokee replied, “The one you feed.”

Which wolf are you feeding in your relationships?

Your relationship with yourself determines how you relate to others. It always begins with you.

You can’t give love to someone if you don’t have it for yourself. And if you are uncomfortable with love how can you receive it from others?

Remember that judgment of others has no place in your relationships and in your happiness.

As with anything else, you have a choice. Deal with yourself and all of your relationships with love and forgiveness.

In your relationships, which wolf is winning?

Here’s the Daily Exercise for Today:-

Look back over the last 24 days and reflect on all your interactions with other people. Recall what judgements you passed on them – and be honest!

Perhaps you were shocked at just how much you judge others.

With this new awareness, from now onwards stop yourself from judging others.

The moment you catch yourself about to pass judgement, send them a positive thought instead. Over time, watch your relationships with other people magically transform.

This also applies to judgements you pass on yourself. Stop it!


28 Day Relationship Adventure

Postscript – Here are the complete 28 articles in this series from February 2011.

Please do check them all out:-)


1 – Become Aware of Your Relationships

2 – Love Yourself First Before Loving Anyone Else

3 – Love Yourself Without Becoming Full of Yourself

4 – Love is all that matters

5 – 9 Simple Tips To Create Energising Relationships

6 – Why Decluttering your Friends is Good for You and Them

7 – Stop Bending over Backwards for Other People!

8 – 14 Key Strategies to Help You Become Special Too and Find the Special One!

9 – 10 Key Secrets for Becoming Likeable

10 – Don’t Fall in Love – Create Love

11 – Do you Believe in Soulmates?

12 – Open Your Heart and Find the Special One

13 – Create Your Ideal Valentine’s Day!

14 – Make it a Fun Valentine’s Day Everyday!

15 – Make Your Relationship Even More Special

16 – Learn to Love Unconditionally

17 – 11 Keys to Improve ALL Your Relationships

18 – Why the Human Touch is Key

19 – How NOT to Make Friends!

20 – Share Your Love with Your Loved Ones Everyday

21 – Stop Judging, Start Loving

22 – Simple Trick to Instantly Improve All Your Relationships

23 – Why No One Is Ever An Ugly Duckling!

24 – Why World Compassion Begins With You

25 – Why Teamwork Always Begins with YOU

26 – How to Let People Go From Your Life

27 – Thank the Divine Every Day

28 – Stop Being An Approval Seeking Machine


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