Create Your Ideal Valentine’s Day!


As we approach Valentine’s Day, what are your plans to celebrate this day of love?

Is it a time of the year you enjoy or dread?

A year ago I wrote a giant post to help you celebrate Valentine’s Day, and I brought you some of the best blog posts from around the blogosphere.

Check out my collection of the ultimate 40 posts for Valentine’s Day and indeed every day.

Valentine’s Day is a fun and loving day for many people and there are so many wonderful bloggers out there sharing their wisdom about love and relationship.

Today I want to bring you more of the collective wisdom of my blogger friends.

This is Day 13 of our “28 day Relationships Adventure” in February.

You can read all 28 articles which are listed at the bottom of this post.

I am proud to know a lot of prominent bloggers as friends and it is a privilege for me to share their work with you.

I asked them 2 simple questions:-

1. What’s your ideal Valentine Day or Valentine date?

2. In one sentence, how can people bring more love into their lives everyday?

I have collated their answers below – and I know you will enjoy reading through their thoughts and ideas for Valentine’s Day.

All these bloggers are committed to making a difference and I invite you to explore their work and also subscribe to their blogs.

Here are their thoughts on how to create the perfect Valentine Day and how to bring more love into the world:-

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Alex Blackwell The BridgeMaker

“My wife Mary Beth and I celebrated with a Valentine dinner a few days ago. Getting a reservation on Valentine’s Day was impossible, but with 26 Valentine’s Days behind us, we were just fine celebrating as we did.

While it’s not practical to think everyday can be like Valentine’s Day, enjoy the magic of the day anyway. And if the heart of each lover is hungry to give, the day will be a feast!

On this Valentine’s Day, delight in opening the cards, receiving the flowers and experiencing a dinner just for two. Lose yourself in your partner and enjoy each touch, smell and taste.

Allow love to fill your heart all the way to the top. But before falling asleep, take one last moment and think about everything love can do on the other days, too.”

“It’s just as well no one has the perfect marriage or relationship because if you did, you might stop working on it. So nurture it every day and you will be able to see what love can do anytime you take the time to look.”

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Andrea DeBell – Britetalk

“I love Valentine’s Day so I splurge on this day; not in terms of money but in terms of love, attention, and time spent together.  My husband and I take the day off and we spend the whole day together taking turns picking activities that we’d like to do. He may choose a hike, then I choose a picnic, and so on. It usually ends with us watching a romantic comedy with popcorn. Even though it’s not the only day we set a side to celebrate our love, it’s great to have an assigned day for love.”

“It’s important to open our hearts and notice that there is so much love around us already such as in nature, small gestures, simple words, a smile, a touch, and in our thoughts; love is literally everywhere.”

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Angela ArtemisPowered by Intuition

“Honestly, I’ve never been a big Valentine’s Day fan. I think keeping a relationship strong takes way more than being romantic on February 14th. You have to work at it 365 days a year. I’d rather be in a relationship where we were both did our best to make each other happy year round than in a relationship where I received an “obligatory box of candy and card” once a year.”

“To bring more love into your life: Be loving toward others and your life will be filled with love.”

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Belinda Munoz The Halfway Point

“On a personal scale, my ideal Valentine’s Day is very simple. It is one spent enjoying the company of my family, appreciating the good lives that we have, and teaching my four year old son about love.

Through dialogue and example,  I hope to show him that love starts from within and can be shared not just with family and friends but also with strangers by showing them kindness and compassion.

On a larger scale, I would love to see Valentine’s Day become less about the one day of fine-dining and expensive gifts or the limited notion of romance between two people but rather a day that symbolizes how we all need love and can lift each other up by being inclusive about giving and receiving love.”

“You can bring more love into your life by loving oneself as well as others through acts of kindness, compassion, generosity, forgiveness and acceptance.”

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Eduard EzeanuPeople Skills Decoded

“I’m your typical (or maybe not) bachelor, I am usually not in a relationship when Valentine Day arrives. For me it’s just an excuse to party. Like tonight, when I’m going to this craaazy pre-valentine salsa party!”

“You can bring more love into the world by being happy. When I’m happy end enjoying myself, I create opportunities for other to have fun as well. Happiness is more contagious than chicken pox :)”

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Gail Brenner A Flourishing Life

“Valentine’s Day is a sweet opportunity that reminds us of the love that is already here.  Why not celebrate every day?  It’s so easy:  look in someone’s eyes, offer a compliment, do a favour, drop into your heart and see what wants to be expressed.  This is how I plan on celebrating this year.”

“Love is our nature, our essence.  It is what is revealed when everything else falls away.  Do you want more love in your life?  Shed your stories, and know yourself as love.  Then celebrate endlessly in the moments of your life.”

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John Sherry Real Simple People

“For a special Valentine’s Day, I would make some special time just to be together. Couples start out in life together but can be pulled this way and that and be drawn apart and lose that loving connection.

Valentine’s Day is day to re-connect to tenderness, love, and your relationship. At such times nothing else matters than committing time and space to the person you committed your love and life to.

To hold their hand again, be next to them, and to show that your love has grown stronger as you have grown older, and that no matter what uncertainties life can bring your love is the one certainty they can always rely on. Make room in your heart by always making time in your life for each other.”

“People can bring more love into their lives by witnessing more often in the world – couples holding hands and kissing, children playing and hugging, birds singing, the sun shining, and life anew every day. That’s love everywhere.”

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Linda Hewett – Positive Spin – Live Life on the Upside

“On my ideal Valentine’s Day, we stroll, hand in hand, in the early spring sunshine, up the lane behind our home, past the sheep with their new born lambs. Rooks crowd and clatter across the sky and there’s a slight chill in the air. Something catches my eye. I crouch to see the first primrose, shyly blooming amongst the weeds.  I can’t stop smiling.”

“To bring more love into their lives everyday, people should reach out, then in; give, then take; be open, not closed.”

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Philip Bolton – Less Ordinary Living

“Valentine’s Day is about spending special time with someone you love. I love to go to the cinema or a concert with my wife, or cook a simple supper at home. It’s about the quality and connection, not ostentation. A chance to connect and reaffirm your love.”

“To bring more love into the world, treat everyone the way you’d like to be treated. When you feel compassion, act on it.”

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Satya Colombo

“I believe that love expressed through art in all its various forms has the power to transform society. In fact, it may be our only hope. On the other hand, I despise the idea of blindly following customs and traditions “just because” they exist.

My ideal Valentine’s Day would be more or less the same as any other ideal day: One in which I am filled with wonder and enjoyment at the ineffably vast glory and essence of this existence…”

“People can bring more love into the world by raising up their energy and calibrating it to the luminous frequency of love and light.”

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Steven AitchisonChange your Thoughts

“I think if we only remember our partners one day out of the year, we are doing something very wrong!

We tell each other every day, in our own way, how much we love each other, whether it’s a text to each other just to say I am thinking about you, a kiss before going into the spoon position to sleep, having a date with each other throughout the year, spending time with the family, a look, a glance, a smile.”

“To bring more love into your life everyday, remind yourself, and your partner, every day why you fell in love with them.

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Stacey Curnow – Midwife for your Life

“My ideal Valentine’s Day would involve (at least 15 minutes of) sex!”

“As a mama who has a very full life with a very full to-do list every day, I know I wouldn’t have sex if I didn’t schedule it. The days of making love all night are o-v-e-r. My son is a night owl and it’s rare that I have enough energy after he goes to sleep to get it on spontaneously. But I believe in the many benefits of sex and I commit to it just like anything else that’s important to me, especially on a day that is all about LOVE.”

“A guideline that I feel is indispensible in any relationship, I learned from one of my favourite authors, Eckhart Tolle. In his fabulous and (for me) life-changing book, A New Earth, he writes –  “Whatever you think people are withholding from you – praise, appreciation, assistance, loving care, and so on – give it to them.”

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Tammy StrobelRowdy Kittens

“Showing love and affection isn’t about buying stuff. It’s about spending quality time with your partner.

For example, on Valentines Day my husband and I don’t buy each other anything. Instead, we’ll make a homemade dinner together, go for a long walk or bike ride. We give each other the gifts of time and attention.”

“Bring more love into your life by being present and listening to your partner.”

 

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Zeenat Merchant-SyalPositive Provocations

“My ideal Valentines day begins with a short meditation, where I send loving blessings to all the hearts of the world.

And then I spend the rest of the day with friends and family loving, caring, listening and making each and every soul I come across feel extra special. But you know that is my day everyday!

I guess that means everyday is Valentines or a day of love for me.”

“I personally don’t believe in giving and receiving material gifts on any occasion – I prefer the lasting, meaningful gifts.

An ideal gift to be given everyday is the gift of pure love, genuine caring and focused attention to each person that comes our way.”

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There you are – hearty contributions from bloggers around the world to add that extra zest of love and fun to your Valentine’s Day and indeed any day.

Happy Valentine’s Day everyone, today and everyday.

And a happy life:-)

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Daily Exercise for Today

If you are in a relationship, then go through the ideas above and see how you can create the “best possible Valentine’s Day for your loved one.

If you are single, then apart from pampering yourself like crazy, reflect on the sort of memorable Valentine’s Day you will create for your future love.

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28 Day Relationship Adventure

Please do check them all out:-)

1 – Become Aware of Your Relationships

2 – Love Yourself First Before Loving Anyone Else

3 – Love Yourself Without Becoming Full of Yourself

4 – Love is all that matters

5 – 9 Simple Tips To Create Energising Relationships

6 – Why Decluttering your Friends is Good for You and Them

7 – Stop Bending over Backwards for Other People!

8 – 14 Key Strategies to Help You Become Special Too and Find the Special One!

9 – 10 Key Secrets for Becoming Likeable

10 – Don’t Fall in Love – Create Love

11 – Do you Believe in Soulmates?

12 – Open Your Heart and Find the Special One

13 – Create Your Ideal Valentine’s Day!

14 – Make it a Fun Valentine’s Day Everyday!

15 – Make Your Relationship Even More Special

16 – Learn to Love Unconditionally

17 – 11 Keys to Improve ALL Your Relationships

18 – Why the Human Touch is Key

19 – How NOT to Make Friends!

20 – Share Your Love with Your Loved Ones Everyday

21 – Stop Judging, Start Loving

22 – Simple Trick to Instantly Improve All Your Relationships

23 – Why No One Is Ever An Ugly Duckling!

24 – Why World Compassion Begins With You

25 – Why Teamwork Always Begins with YOU

26 – How to Let People Go From Your Life

27 – Thank the Divine Every Day

28 – Stop Being An Approval Seeking Machine

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Comments

  1. Hi Arvind!

    Thanks so much for including me in this collection! I really enjoyed reading everyone’s suggestions. The fact that Andrea and her husband devote a whole day to each other makes my 15 minutes with my husband seem a little paltry, and I’m inspired to stretch out our time together little longer. 🙂 Take wonderful care, and much love, Stacey

    • Stacey – you are most welcome and thanks for your hearty contribution.

      I bet the rest of the bloggers were too shy to mention sex!

      Like Andrea, I think you should make your session last the whole day:-)

      Happy Valentine’s Day today and everyday!

  2. Arvind,
    You know how the Eskimos have so many words for snow – and the English language has only one? You amaze me with all the ways you have of covering this topic!

    I really enjoyed reading everyone’s description of the ideal V. Day. I thank you for including me here among all these fabulous bloggers.

    I think we all felt that the care we give to our loved ones on Valentine’s Day should be carried out more throughout the year. It’s nice to have a special day – but to make more of an effort to be loving for the other 364 days is extra-special.

  3. Andrea DeBell - britetalk says:

    Hi Arvind! This post turned out great with so many ideas and perspectives. I specially love the tips on bringing more love into our lives.
    Thanks for offering this beautiful Valentine’s Day gift to all of us and for including my blog. I’m truly honored to be a part of this act of love.
    Loving blessing, my friend!

    • Thanks Andrea – I am very pleased with the way this post came out.

      And thank you so much for sharing your special tips with us. As well as all the readers of this blog, you have especially inspired Stacey – see her comment above:-)

      Happy Valentine’s Day today and everyday!

  4. Arvind: Great post. It is always so great to hear the thoughts and insights of such great people in the blogosphere. I had almost forgotten Valentines Day was quickly approaching until I came across this post 🙂 Thanks for passing along the great messages and reminders of how to truly value and cherish relationships.

    • Thanks Sibyl.

      Sometimes it would be nice not to be reminded of Valentine’s Day but all the commercial aspects means this is almost impossible nowadays. But somehow you clearly managed to avoid all the hype!

      Happy Valentine’s Day today and everyday!

  5. Satya Colombo says:

    Thanks for having me Arvind — nice collection of responses here from a lovely group…! who are those people in the pic…?! 🙂 cheers

  6. Gail Brenner (AFlourishingLife) says:

    I love this series, Arvind, and appreciate that you included me in this post. We can learn how to thrive in all of our relationships, and you are laying out the path so clearly. Posts like these can literally change the world. Thank you for giving so generously.

    Happy Valentine’s Day!
    Love, Gail

  7. What a gorgeous post Arvind, full of gentle love and tenderness, it was a total pleasure for me to be involved so thank you for the invite. It’s great be among all those who love and I hope today is the day everyone gets to experience love in their life. I send some of mine to everyone and to you my friend for giving us all a wonderful month of love here at your blog. I hope your mailbox is fairly popping with Valetine cards for you today Arvind.

    • Thanks John for your contribution above – and especially for sending us all your love – I received it loud and clear this morning:-)

      Today is indeed the day that we all get to experience ever more increasing love in our lives.

  8. This was a delight to read, Arvind! Regardless of how varied our ideas are of what an ideal Valentine’s Day is, we all agree that the best things we can give our partner and loved ones are our true wealth — time and attention.

    I’m loving this creative series you’re doing for the month of February and I’m delighted to have been able to contribute in some way.

    Have a great Valentine’s Day! xox

    • Welcome back to my blog, Belinda!

      Thanks for your lovely contribution above about teaching your 4 year old son about love.

      As you say, out true wealth are our time and our attention for our loved ones. And the day to begin to do that is today:-)

  9. Good stuff Arvind. It’s exciting to read so many diverse perspectives on Valentines. Reminds me how unique we all are. Thank for the mention, by the way 😉

  10. Hi Arvind,

    Thanks for including me in the love. Your passion and commitment to this project is making a difference in reminding people about the power of love.

    With all my heart,

    Alex

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