How NOT to Make Friends!

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Every now and then you come across a picture and you just have to smile.

This picture was sent to me recently by a friend and apparently it has been doing the rounds of the net for a few years now.

You can just imagine the ensuing chaos and shock a few milliseconds after the picture was taken.

Sometimes life can be just tough – and it can kick you or soak you just when you are not expecting it!

Clearly the picture may have been doctored, but nevertheless it does lead to some interesting questions and learnings for our daily life.

This is Day 19 of our “28 Day Relationships Adventure (DRA)” in February. You can read the previous 18 articles by following the links at the bottom of this post.

Today I want to briefly explore how we can easily damage or destroy our friendships.

How often have you done or said something that you have regretted straightaway?

The damage has been done in a split second and you may take a long time to repair it. Friendships and relationships have been destroyed in the blinking of an eye.

They say it takes years to build up trust and friendship, and it may only take one or two harsh words to lose it all.

So the lesson is this – take care and think twice before saying or doing something that could cause lasting damage to your friendship. Or indeed any other relationship.

Whereas the people drenched in the above photo will soon dry out, and they might even see the funny side of things after a while, the hurt, pain and damage caused to our loved ones by some harsh words can be deeper and more lasting.

Remember – rather than saying something you might regret, take time out.

Go and cool down – under a cascade of water if necessary :-).

Here’s the Daily Exercise for Today:-

Look back on your own friendships and reflect on a friendship which went sour. What could you have done differently?

How can you use these insights to improve your future friendships?

And then check out the previous 18 articles in this series here:-

Day 1 – Become Aware of Your Relationships
Day 2 – Love Yourself First Before Loving Anyone Else
Day 3 – Love Yourself Without Becoming Full of Yourself
Day 4 – Love is all that matters
Day 5 – 9 Simple Tips To Create Energising Relationships
Day 6 – Why Decluttering your Friends is Good for You and Them
Day 7 – Stop Bending over Backwards for Other People!
Day 8 – Be Special to Find the Special One
Day 9 – 10 Key Secrets for Becoming Likeable
Day 10 – Don’t Fall in Love – Create Love

Day 11 – Do you Believe in Soulmates?
Day 12 – Open Your Heart and Find the Special One
Day 13 – Create your ideal Valentine’s Day
Day 14 – Make it a Fun Valentine’s Day Everyday!
Day 15 – Make Your Relationship Even More Special
Day 16 – Learn to Love Unconditionally
Day 17 – 11 Keys to Improve ALL Your Relationships
Day 18 – Why the Human Touch is Key

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  1. Hi Arvind;

    much as I would have loved to I, can not but say that I do not completely agree with you as far as mending a friendship which went sour. As our life is made up of experiences and some of them worse to even forget , nevertheless we try to by moving on….. however, I do not know what I could have said to not let that/those friendships go sour. For if a friend can encash your innocence, then thats a person I would rather break up with. Every one can not be your friend. Yes, there might be aquaintances and many . 🙂

    However, learning from the previous experiences, a little check in one’s behaviour does make your aware of not hurting your present friendships.

    Love n Peace.

    Nabanita. 🙂

    • Thanks Nabanita for sharing your input.

      I actually agree with you in that once a friendship has gone sour, then it may well be time to let go. And sometimes there is nothing you can do to repair it or get it back to its previous level.

      Once you let go of a friendship, you can make room for new, more energising friends to come into your life.

      However, what I was emphasising was that we should take good care to let existing relationships go sour.

      I wish you with all your friendships – and may they all thrive:-)

  2. Hey Arvind, it’s good that you’re talking about friendships, as they’re also important to the concept of love. Solid friendships are those that last the test of time, like romantic relationships, and if you happen to fall out with a friend, it may because you just weren’t meant to have a long-lasting friendship.

    Hope you’re good my friend 🙂

    • Stuart, all’s well!

      To me friendship comes before true love, especially in your significant relationship.

      Friends come and go – and it’s not the end of the world. And that’s what makes our lives so full and rich. There are always new people to befriend and get to know. Within reason, of course:-)

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