Why You Should Never Ever Feel Sorry for Yourself Again!

Have you ever felt sorry for yourself!?

If so, welcome to the human race.  Most of us have been there at one time or another where we feel we’ve been hard done by life.

Maybe you are feeling like that right now?

Or maybe you know someone who’s always down in the dumps and blaming everyone else for not making them happy.

Well, over the last week I have been lucky enough to be moved and inspired by some of the most amazing, brave and talented people I have ever seen.

Yes, I am talking about the Paralympic Games! In previous years, I have not followed the Paralympic Games closely, but I have been so privileged to follow the 2012 games on my doorstep.

I am in so much awe of what these competitors are able to do at such a high level despite all the perceived challenges they have faced and continue to face.

Last night I was lucky enough to be given a ticket for the Olympic Stadium – please check out my photos here.

I can share many inspiring stories  but here are three for you to check out.

1. Alex Zanardi won a handcycling gold medal. He is an ex GP Racing driver and had both legs amputated following a near-fatal Champ Car accident at Germany’s Lausitzring.

2. David Weir won his third Gold medal in the hand cycling.  And on Sunday, he may get a fourth medal in his main event – the marathon.

3. Tennis player Esther Vergeer  wins her fourth gold medal in 4 Paralympic Games – and it was her 470th win in a row!

And there are so many more stories of heroism and excellence.

All the Paralympians have transformed their perceived “disability” into an extreme ability. Most of them are world class performers in their own right.

They remind me of this famous Jewish proverb:-

I felt sorry for myself because I had no shoes — until I met a man who had no feet.”

It’s funny how what you focus on shows up in your life. The day before the Paralympic opening ceremony, I actually saw a man with a metal leg in my local newsagents. It was one of the modern prosthetic legs and it was the first time I had seen such a leg in real life.

So what was special about him? Well, for a start he was carrying a very young baby boy and he was writing with his free hand. We met in a newsagents store and he was filling in some kind of form.

I noticed that his left leg was just a metal pipe, presumably held to his knee by some contraption. I got chatting to him and not having any “British reserve”, of course I asked him what had happened. With a straight face he said it was a shark attack.

In my head I immediately heard the theme music from the movie Jaws!

My face must have lit up in awe, wonder or perhaps even shock because the man smirked and smiled and said actually it wasn’t a shark attack but a car accident.

He then explained that his life was just as “normal” as before the loss of his leg – but he found it funny though how some people found it strange that he had since fathered a child – clearly some parts of his body were still very much intact!

This conversation lasted no more than a couple of moments but for me it encapsulated everything that’s so great and noble about the human spirit.

Here was an ordinary man with an extraordinary approach to life. Rather than feeling sorry for himself, he had chosen not to see himself as someone crippled or “handicapped”.

I don’t even like the word “handicapped” – who decides what’s true and what represents some kind of shortcoming!?

Which brings me nicely to the point of my post –if all these people with supposed “handicaps” can aim so high and reach such sublime levels of excellence, what’s stopping the rest of us!?

If the Paralympic Athletes can achieve and do so much with their challenges, what can people “able-bodied” people like you and I can achieve.

(I am assuming that most of my readers are able-bodied – and those readers who have a “disability”, I bow to you in total admiration and humility.).

These Paralympians show such determination and strength of character, its inspiring and at the same time humbling.

It’s for time for you and me to take stock of our lives and see what’s really important – and follow their example and make our lives   truly worthwhile – and to make our lives count.

Strive for Excellence – Just Begin!

If you ever need any inspiration, check out again the 3 stories of the Paralympians above and many others online.

And remember not to ever again feel sorry for yourself.

Two of Team GB's gold medal winning atheletes


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  1. Dennis the Richmeme says

    Inspiring post!

    Few days ago I went to play badminton and I saw many wheelchairs at the corner of the room. I asked my friend, “Why there are so many wheelchairs here?” He said, these are for the disabilities. When I heard that, I was surprised and I feel great for them. I feel awesome! And I told him I’ll definitely drop by to visit them and photograph them to show others how awesome they are.

    I respect these people. They just don’t give up!!

    And they make me wonder why there are so many people out there complaining how tough their life is, how unfair their life is, but they never realize there are people out there even more unfortunate.

    We should be grateful. We should be really really appreciate what we have have now and enjoy every moment we are having now.

  2. 🙂 Funny how, even though most of us have everything, we still hanker after something that we don’t have. So, beginning with appreciating everything we do have is the first step to happiness.

    The Paralympics is very humbling. And such a valuable lesson. Thank you Arvind, for all the links. It is all about attitude, perception and gratitude.

  3. Cathy | Treatment Talk says

    Beautiful reminder Arvind to be grateful for what we do have. Take care.

  4. I am so glad you wrote this post as I have been watching some of the paralympics and have been so humbled and inspired. It must have been such a joy to be there in the stadium.
    I have been so inspired by the swimmers too and Matt Cowdrey and Jacqui Freney who has taken out lots of gold and are such an inspiration. There are so many stories of courage.
    I have been stunned by the lack of coverage the games are getting here in Australia given our Paralympic team has totally outshine the able bodied athletes when it comes to medal count especially gold.:)
    Yes Arvind we all have so much to be grateful for thank you

  5. Glynis Jolly says

    I’m physically disabled myself. Even so, I am awed by other people with disabilities who not only continue a normal but go beyond that. Me, I just am one of the ones living a normal life. I can tell you that I went through a period of pity but, to tell you the truth, it was really quite boring so I gave it up.

  6. Arvind,
    I met a man (parapaligic) and his wife last year that left me with the same feeling of don’t feel sorry for me. They both had such full lives with a new baby, too. He had just invented a wonderful drink holder with a straw that make it easy to be independent and drink for himself. You are so lucky to have been a part of the Paralympic Games. I really appreciate your post and the update.

  7. It’s so true Arvind how much we have to be thankful for and what a wonderful reminder of the indomitability of the human spirit the paralympic games are. It truly is inspiring and I’m so grateful for all your posts on FB and for this message.

    Love Elle

  8. Wenie Langacre says

    Honestly, I have never seen an actual Paralympic Games but you know what, seeing these people, is something that we must not pity but something to be proud of.
    That incredible skill to do things that’s quite uneasy for them.

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