Why Playing Big Helps You Let Go of Small Things

Are you playing big yet in your life? If not, then why not?

In my coaching work with various clients, I am meeting more and more people who really want to play big and make a contribution to the world.

It’s really heartening for me that there are so many people in the world who want to make a true difference to others. At he same time they want to make the most of their own life.

What is my life if I am no longer useful to others?”Goethe

What’s becoming clear to me is this – the moment you commit to a bigger game, the small things in your life just drop away. [Read more…]

You Were Born to Win – Authentically

Born to Win!

A friend just lent me a book which I first read over 20 years ago during my college days.

The book has an intriguing title – “Born to Win” – and it’s a wonderful book which I read a long time before I discovered the world of coaching and personal development.

Its funny how life gives you clues at a young age about your future journey – I have always been fascinated with self-improvement and how to do things better.

In the book introduction, the authors share their definition of what a winner is:-

“A winner is one who responds authentically by being credible, trustworthy, responsive and genuine, both as an individual and as a member of society”.

Conversely, a loser is one who fails to respond authentically.

The authors go on to discuss how to those people who  winners, achievement is not the most important thing – authenticity is.

This could be a life-changing realisation for you.

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Stop Wasting Time on Petty Stuff: If I Can Do It, So Can You.

be happy, joyous and childlike whilst you canAre you aware of your clock ticking?

Whether you are willing to acknowledge it or not, you are here only for a limited time.

Today most people live as if they will live to 97 and beyond. How else can we explain the way people live their lives today?

It is as if they are stuck in this imagined utopia from their childhood where nothing ever changes and they live forever.

In case you are wondering why I chose the number 97 above, it’s only to make my point – so stop fussing about irrelevant things!

No matter how great your world is today, it could all turn horrible tomorrow. It’s just the nature of things and the way the world is. Anything can collapse any moment.

Life is fragile and yet so precious.

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How to Conquer Temptation and Fulfill Your Dreams

temptation of pizza - don't do it!

This is a guest post from Bamboo Forest

That slice of pizza you’re craving when you’re on a diet isn’t temptation – it’s distraction.

Change your perception of the word “temptation” to what it really is, which is distraction.

Isn’t fulfilling your goal and the outcome of fulfilling your goal more important than giving into distractions whose only intention is to destroy the outcome you so badly want?

You would let distractions get you to act in ways that take you off the path to your greatest fulfillment?

That’s crazy and it’s weak.

What about the distractions of worry, doubt and dwelling on the past?

Do you also let those sabotage you from being who you want to be and creating the outcome you want so badly for your life?

Could you imagine fighting a war and out of the corner of your eye noticing a clown juggling.

Would you put your weapon down and stare at the clown while your fellow soldiers were getting shot at?


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5 Simple Keys for Taking Massive Action in Your Life

time to take massive action!

This is a kick-ass guest post by Henri Junttila

You already know that taking massive action produces results, so the question becomes: why aren’t you doing it?

Probably because you’re afraid, overwhelmed, or even worried, and there’s nothing wrong with that. In fact, if you didn’t feel those feelings, there might be something wrong.

I didn’t start seeing success online until I started focusing and taking massive action.

I was scared, but I knew what I wanted, and I was willing to work hard and face my fears to get there.

1. Kill Your Fears

When you remove the obstacles, massive action happens by itself.

Think of a ball on top of a hill (sorry, couldn’t think of anything more awesome than a ball. Roll with it for now.)

If you have a lot of stuff in front of the ball, it won’t roll. But remove the stuff, and it starts doing what it was meant to do: bounce and move forward.

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How to Sleep Just 5 hours a Day and Feel Fantastic!

jump for joy after just 5 hours of sleep!
What would your life be like if you suddenly gained a few extra hours each day?

Can you see how you could then do more of the things you enjoy?

Or maybe some of you would work even more hours on your businesses or work life!

Today in the UK the clocks have gone back one hour which means that just for one day, we had an “extra” hour.

It’s a quirky thing how here in the UK we create British Summer Time by putting our clocks forward by an hour in early spring and then we put them back an hour in autumn.

It’s all to help our farmers with more light in the winter mornings – but personally I prefer lighter evenings.

I used the “extra” hour today to cleanse my home and did some more de-cluttering (does it ever end?) in readiness for Diwali and the Indian New Year next weekend.

A while ago I wrote about my 9 tips to create and extra hour everyday.

But how can you create a few extra hours each day of your life without having to manipulate the clock?

Well, my friend and mentor Steven Aitchison has created a wonderful new guide called “How to Become an Advanced Early Riser” where he shows you how to get 5 hours of sleep each night and still feel fantastic.

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10 Lessons from a Spider About Achieving your Dreams

spidermanThis article comes with a health warning!

Some people are averse to Spiders, but by the time you have read this post, you may well love them!

Last night I saw a beautiful sight. Well, beautiful to me anyway.

Right outside my front door, I saw a giant spider’s web. Just to clarify the web was giant, not the spider, which was perhaps no more than an inch in size.

The giant web was about a metre high and almost the same in width. So believe me, it was giant! And right in the middle of it, beavering away was my new spider friend.

It was easily the biggest spider’s web I have ever seen.

Check out on Facebook the photos I took of my new spider friend.

What I saw last night was to me a masterpiece, a wonder of nature, a work of art.

Okay, spiders may not be your taste (has anyone ever even tasted one?). They may not appeal to you, but they can certainly teach you a few life lessons.

Like them or not, tiny or giant, spiders are incredibly powerful and awe-inspiring. If you ever get a chance, watch how a spider spins its web.

Nature at its most awe inspiring.

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Why You ARE Enough!

You ARE good enough!

Do you ever wonder if you have what it takes?

When was the last time you allowed yourself to just be?

A couple of days ago, I was working with a coaching client and what came up was how sometimes we can feel like there is so much to do and yet so little time. We end up with huge to-do lists which never seem to get shorter and we collect in our head all those actions which we will one day do.

It’s a case of one day, some day, I will do this, visit that place and read that book.

At the same time, we feel that we must do this or that so as to prove ourselves to others. Actually, a lot of the time it’s even about proving to ourselves that we can do or have something.

At the root of this is this sense of not being good enough and therefore having to continuously prove ourselves as worthy.

A lot of my coaching is intuitive and I usually allow the coaching conversation to bubble up and go where it goes.

In this particular session, the phrase “I am enough” came up.  And that changed the whole dynamic of  the session – and indeed my client’s face even lit up as realisation dawned that actually all was fine and he was enough.

No more things to do, places to go to and people to meet. Just let it be. And everything will fall into place.

As a famous fab four once said, just let it be.

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The Ultimate Secret to Always Winning in Life

climber on top of the world

What motivates you to be your best? Who do you use as comparison to push your limits?

In years of competition from academics to business to athletics and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, I’ve found the best competition to be the same person every time: Myself.

You always have been and always will be your own best competitor.

Have you ever worked really hard only to look to someone else and be disappointed that your progress was not as advanced as theirs? Was it frustrating? Did it motivate or demotivate you?

If you’re anything like most of us, this experience probably took the wind out of your sails. You think, what’s the point of working so hard if I still can’t be as good as him or her? When it comes to peak performance, we want to avoid frustration at all cost. If we don’t, it may keep us from reaching our full potential.

Comparison is futile

In a world where comparisons happen non-stop, it is difficult to look outside yourself and to ever be content with who you are. There’s always someone who’s a tad bit better.

The only solution is to reach inside and measure against what Warren Buffett calls your own internal yardstick. There is no more accurate measure for comparison than who you were yesterday, last week or last decade, when you were at your best. Or perhaps the person you know you can be, based on your values, purpose and mission.

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How You Too Can Win the World Cup of Your Life

Mr Mandela with the World CupIn case you have not noticed, the 2010 Football World Cup started today.

Even if you have no interest in the game and find all the news coverage overwhelming, you can not deny the global appeal of the world’s biggest sporting event which happens every 4 years.

For me it is a very proud moment that the World Cup Finals are being held in Africa, the continent I was born in and for which I will always have a special affinity.

Also, sport has always been one of my passions and I find fascinating any sporting activity, whether individual or team, which tests human capacity for greater proficiency and striving.

What’s the appeal of the World Cup?

It’s a sheer carnival and the biggest multinational party on the planet – and best of all, it brings together people from all around the globe.

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9 Smart Ways to Focus in the Age of Distraction


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