Are you grateful for your life? Or do you whinge about everything?
Gratitude is all about appreciating the things you have in your life.
Are you aware of all the goodness around you? The fact that you are breathing and reading these printed words is a marvel in itself.
How often we take something for granted and then miss it as soon as it has gone. Many a time a loved one has left us, only for us to wish we had told them just how much they meant to us.
Gratitude is a way of reaching back to our natural state of happiness. You get to notice what’s right instead of what’s wrong and begin to see every “problem” as an opportunity for growth and development. Is your glass half full or half empty?
I challenge you this week to begin to value all the goodness and beauty around you. This can be as majestic as a sunset or as simple as the feel of the clothes you wear.
Be thankful for a gift from a friend, a child’s smile, a stranger’s kindness, having got home safely this evening and simply to be alive.
Appreciate the weather too wherever you are. After all it is the rainwater that sustains all the nature around us.
Some of the happiest people I know live with an attitude of gratitude.
Adopting such an approach is a life long commitment and here are my tips to get you started.
1. List the things in your life to be grateful for and which you take for granted, such as your health, home, family, friends, work colleagues, car, and so on. Add all the things that you could not survive without, such as sunlight, air, water and food.
See how many things you can come up with. Keep this list with you, and refer to it anytime you get upset. See how long you remain upset!
Slow down, make time to smell the roses and see how you too can blossom like a flower.
2. Do something for someone for no reason other than simply wanting to do it. Have no attachment to the outcome. Pay for someone’s parking, or compliment a stranger.
3. Post a card of appreciation to someone whom you have not been in touch with for a while. Go one step further and send cards to five people and tell them how much you appreciate them being in your life.
4. Send a thank you note to someone who has done something for you, significant or not. Get into a habit of sending such notes by post. Most mail nowadays is junk mail or bills. Light up someone’s day. Create a trail of happiness behind you, as you go forward in your life.
5. Take time to feel awe and wonder at the world. See things as if for the first time ever. For instance, imagine just how fascinating a dog would look like to a child when seen for the first time. Slow down and notice the beauty around you. Stop and smell the roses.
6. Accept things as they are. No matter how much the situation has turned out differently to your expectations, it is the way it is. You don’t know how much worse off you could have been, had things gone differently. Savour the current moment and be grateful for what is.
7. Focus on what is right in your life rather than what’s wrong. Since we are so conditioned into noticing the negatives, we often overlook all the good in our life. Count your blessings and be thankful.
8. Say “thank you” as often as possible to all the people who make your life what it is. A smile and a simple thank you will do. This will have a magical effect on the person receiving your appreciation. They will feel that their efforts have been noticed and appreciated.
Play a game and count the number of “thank yous” you say. Then increase this number the next day. The opportunities to genuinely thank people are endless.
For instance, next time you are at a checkout desk, show your gratitude and appreciation to the cashier. He and his colleagues have probably been up since the crack of dawn to make it possible for you to have your daily groceries and for you to eat.
Acknowledge your postman. Do you even know his name? See how his face lights up when you show an interest in his life. Very few people know the name of the postman who may have been delivering their mail for years. Ask him his name and make his day.
If you work in an office, acknowledge and get to know the cleaning staff. If they didn’t clean up, you would soon know that it is not fun to work in a rubbish tip. Thank the men who collect your domestic refuse every week.
All the people you acknowledge will be truly touched.
And best of all, you will feel great too.
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A FREIND HAS JUST SENT ME ONE OF YOUR QUOTES
AND ITS JUST SO NICE SO THANK YOU I AM GOING THOUGH A ROUGH TIME SO YOUR PRAYS WILL BE GRATEFULL INDEED HOPING TO FIND WORK TO PAY MY BILLS
GOD BLESS U AND YOUR WORK
Hi Arvind
I just love your site and have directed many friends to read it. I know that Hilary Barton sent you an email which I have forwarded to several people around the world. I am trying to start the ball of good thoughts rolling…so I may send some of your writing on daily basis to help spread the goodness and peace. We all seem to get these racist and bad emails so why not send good ones?
Dear Elaine
Great to hear from you – and thank you for spreading the word.
As you say after all wny not send around good messages?!
Thank you for your inspiration.
Love and gratitude
Arvind
Recently being diagnosed with cancer makes it hard to focus on the good things. But you are so right. I have far more to be grateful for than not. My great marriage and husband are already 2 blessing in a never ending list of blessings. Next time I will ask the post lady her name. You are so right. She has been delivering my mail and picking up my mail now for 2 years, saving me endless trips to the postoffice. We take so many things and people for granted. Your website redirect our attention to the right things in life. Thank you so much Arvind, keep on inspiring people! Ursula
Dear Ursula
Good to hear from you and thanks for your comment and your kind words.
I am really sorry to hear about your recent illness and I really appreciate you sharing your feelings even though it may not be very easy for you right now.
As you say, we all have so much to be grateful for in our lives – we just have to be open to seeing what we have and acknowledging it.
I wish you all the best and please do let me know if I can help in anyway.
Love and best wishes
Arvind
Yes…. All of us have way too many things to be thankful for …
I sometimes imagin my whole life in a circle with lots of dots each stands for an issue of life. and if sth happens which worries me and takes my mind and joy and time and also energy I jusr notice myself that because of just one dot you are omiting other ones and take all of them for granted???is it fair ???
I wish we always have the ability to see what we are granted……
Thank you Anja for reminding me my gifts and among which YOUR SITE…..
Sharare, welcome to my blog.
What a great way of remembering all the things to be grateful for via a circle of dots!
We do indeed have the ability to see what we are granted – it is just a matter of being aware. It can be as simple as writing down 10 things every day to be grateful for:-)
Love and best wishes
Arvind (also sometimes called Anja!)
Dear Arvind ;I DO appologize to make a mistake about your name in my comment .
Again and again thank you……
Sharare, that’s absolutely fine.
I have been called many things – and “Anja” is a first!
Love
Arvind