Do you ever wonder if you have what it takes?
When was the last time you allowed yourself to just be?
A couple of days ago, I was working with a coaching client and what came up was how sometimes we can feel like there is so much to do and yet so little time. We end up with huge to-do lists which never seem to get shorter and we collect in our head all those actions which we will one day do.
It’s a case of one day, some day, I will do this, visit that place and read that book.
At the same time, we feel that we must do this or that so as to prove ourselves to others. Actually, a lot of the time it’s even about proving to ourselves that we can do or have something.
At the root of this is this sense of not being good enough and therefore having to continuously prove ourselves as worthy.
A lot of my coaching is intuitive and I usually allow the coaching conversation to bubble up and go where it goes.
In this particular session, the phrase “I am enough” came up. And that changed the whole dynamic of the session – and indeed my client’s face even lit up as realisation dawned that actually all was fine and he was enough.
No more things to do, places to go to and people to meet. Just let it be. And everything will fall into place.
As a famous fab four once said, just let it be.
So often the client you attract or even the people you meet are a reflection of what you need to learn most in your life at that time.
For me, that session was a realisation and awareness that I too was pushing myself so much – yes, I have a huge to-do list. And my mind is full of all the things I want to do – or more accurately things I feel I have to do. In my work I have a number of projects ticking over and of course my social life is as busy as ever.
How did I get like this? Well, I have always been driven and determined to do a lot of things in my life. But not if it wears me out and my work and health suffers.
Quality and excellence are very important to me, so I do always go the extra mile with my clients and everything else I do. But at the same time, I have to learn to look after my self first!
My own lesson is this – to always remember that I am enough. I don’t have to do anything to prove this to myself and indeed to others. Just let it be.
And the lesson for you? Of course, you are enough too.
The moment you can accept that you are enough and okay just the way you are, you can create things from an empty space and a place of freedom.
Here’s an exercise for you to carry out right now. Stop what you are doing and pause for a few minutes. Close your eyes. Reflect on what it feels like to know that you are enough.
You don’t have to prove anything to anyone. Just be.
And if you are enough, then what possibilities open up for you?
Ironically, in the last two days, whats happened for me has been a flurry of activity to simplify some areas of my life which were becoming overwhelming. Too many projects and social commitments.
So over the last two days I have let go of a few commitments, and cancelled some planned fun things. Then today I am having a friend help me tidy up my home and make it even more immaculate:-)
Though I actively declutter all the time, we are having a huge decluttering session today – and gone will be my to-do lists and backlog of emails etc.
Maybe you too would like to spend a few hours being ruthless and decluttering your life today, or over the coming weekend.
Just remember my 20 questions to simplify your life forever.
Knowing that you are enough means that you can stop wasting so much energy in trying to prove your worth to others, and indeed to yourself.
You simply begin to cease seeking approval from others.
As Byron Katie put it so eloquently:-
“God spare me from the desire for love, approval or appreciation – amen” – Byron Katie
From today onwards as you rush through life, pause every now and then to remember that you are enough.
See how your life begins to slow down and you truly begin to see the miracles and the beauty around you.
“The more you notice the love, the miracles and the beauty around you, the more love comes into your life.” — Betty Eadie
This idea of accepting that you are enough may seem simplistic for some people, but the simple ideas are usually the most powerful.
So remember always, you are enough.
Please share below your thoughts about being enough – and how you will now see your life differently.
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