Mr MiserableHave you noticed that today there is a lot of gloom and doom in the world?

If the doomsayers had it their way, we would all be thoroughly miserable, down and out, and licking our wounds.

Today more than ever you and I need to keep things in perspective and continue to be aware of all the good things in our world.

This is not in anyway to deny the reality of all the challenges we face today. Only last week, I wrote about why you shouldn’t see the Japanese earthquake as a Hollywood movie set.

It’s heart breaking to know just what challenges and trauma so many people in the world are going through right now.

In light of what’s happening around us, it is more imperative than ever before that more people like you adopt a positive and upbeat attitude.

Look back on your life – have you ever met someone who is always so positive and a joy to be around – someone with lots of energy and who can see the sunny side to everything?

You may know someone today who is like that or you may well have been like that yourself once.

Maybe you are scared of being annoyingly positive and losing your boring friends!

Well, you too can learn to be such a positive person too, no matter what stormy times you are going through in your personal life or what challenges the world faces.

“Our lives are not determined by what happens to us but by how we react to what happens, not by what life brings to us, but by the attitude we bring to life.

A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events, and outcomes. It is a catalyst, a spark that creates extraordinary results.”  – Author unknown

So often we cannot do anything about certain circumstances such as the loss of a job, the end of a relationship or bereavement. Or we cannot do much about global events such as earthquakes or a war on the other side of the globe.

However, it is how we react that really determines how long we stay down and out.

Without playing down the trauma and pain of life changing events, it is really up to you to decide how you will continue with your life.

It is an old cliché, but when the going gets tough, the tough get going. We always have a choice and we can choose to see the positive side to everything.

You may well ask – what’s the positive side to the loss of thousands of lives in an earthquake or in a war?

I honestly don’t have an answer to that except that maybe this is an invitation and a prompt from nature to look deeply at how we are living our lives and how we are treating the planet.

I would of course welcome your thoughts about this.

So looking at your own life, is your glass half full or half empty?

To help you to see it as full during these challenging times, here are my tips to adopt a more positive attitude at all times:-

1. Get Away from the Doomsayers

This is possibly the most important thing you can do – simply get away from all the doom and gloom!

Switch off your television, stop surfing so much and refuse to even scan the newspaper headlines.

And harsh as it sounds, distance yourself from people who whinge and moan about the state of the world. And of course make sure you don’t become one of them, by reading the rest of this article.

2. Look for the Positive

Ask yourself what’s the worst thing that could happen or has happened. Hard as it may seem at the time, look for the fabled silver lining.

Often things that apparently go wrong for us are a blessing in disguise. For example, many people who are divorced by their partner, and who wished for the marriage to continue, realise years later that their ex-partner had actually done them a favour.

Their life takes on new meaning and helps them grow in previously unimaginable ways.

What’s the worse thing that could happen today in your life?

Right now, at this very moment whilst you are reading this, you still have your faculties, your body and your home. So what’s the problem!?

3. Let Go and Move On

Be willing and ready to forgive others when you feel you have been slighted.

Have the awareness that everyone is doing the best that they can, with the understanding and knowledge they have. Assume the best in others.

Forgiveness can take time and a lot effort, but it will bring you so much relief and healing.

4. Have No Expectations of How Things Should Be

One of the biggest causes of upset is our expectation of how things should be.

If something didn’t quite go the way you would have liked ask yourself – does it really matter?  In the scheme of things, so what if someone cuts you up in traffic?

Have NO expectations about how things “should” be, and see how quickly you lighten up.

5. See Life as an Adventure

Do you see your life as a drag or an adventure?

Take on the attitude that no matter what happens today, you are going to enjoy whatever the day brings you.

Each new day brings you an abundance of gifts – it is up to you to open your eyes to them.

6. Adopt a Can Do Attitude

No matter what challenges you face today, there is always a solution and a way out.

Learn to cultivate a belief in your ability to cope with whatever life may bring to you. There are always resources and people that can help you.

7. Stop Dwelling on the Past

What is done is done, so begin to work on your present circumstances, which will ultimately help you create the future that you seek.

You can learn key lessons from the past but this does not mean that you wallow in the past.

8. Build Up your Self Esteem

Spend a few moments right now, reviewing all the good things that you have got going in your life and all your achievements to date. Include “minor” achievements too.

You will soon realise that actually you have a lot going for you.

What if the world tells you to be miserable?

No matter what others may say, there are a lot of good things in the world today. The challenge you and I face is to constantly remind ourselves and others about this.

At the end of the day, adopting some or all of the above will rapidly bring about a very positive outlook in your life.

No matter what the world tells you how you should behave and feel miserable, you can stay focussed on the good things in your life and in the world.

Above all, be enthusiastic about life and all that it brings – remember everyone loves to be around a positive buzzing person, and you can be such a person.

Finally, remember to chill out and have more fun in your life. Laughter, playfulness and relaxation are beneficial to the mind as well as the body. By having some fun in your life, you affect how rapidly you age, your immune system and how your body reacts to stress.

So here’s to a more positive you!

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