Are you playing big yet in your life? If not, then why not?
In my coaching work with various clients, I am meeting more and more people who really want to play big and make a contribution to the world.
It’s really heartening for me that there are so many people in the world who want to make a true difference to others. At he same time they want to make the most of their own life.
“What is my life if I am no longer useful to others?” – Goethe
What’s becoming clear to me is this – the moment you commit to a bigger game, the small things in your life just drop away.
The moment you commit to a bigger vision for your life, everything else falls into perspective.
Nothing else matters and the minor or petty day to day life challenges become inconsequential.
For example, in the scheme of things, does it really matter if:-
- Someone cuts you up in the traffic on your way to work?
- Or your boss or a work colleague puts you down and criticizes your work?
- Or your loved one fails to appreciate something you did for them?
You get the idea.
Of course these things do matter to us because we are only human. But if you can just get to see the bigger picture, you’ll see why these things don’t matter.
The point is this – life is too short to play small.
If you are going to play the game, why not just make it a big game?
And the most beautiful thing is that once you are committed to a big game, you actually do get clarity and a lot of focus on doing only those activities that really matter.
In the big scheme of things, all these minor things don’t matter as
- You let go of any perceived grievances, eat humble pie if you need to and just move on.
- You stop time wasting activities, get away from draining people and refuse to take on irrelevant commitments.
- You become highly energized, focused and you jump out of bed eager to get going with your vision.
And best of all you have a lot of fun and fulfillment!
Very simple – life is all about you and it you being bold and thinking big.
Here are some tips on letting go of the small things in your life.
1. Let go of gossiping – just assume the person you are talking about can hear you – and remember that on a subconscious level, they can!
2. Forgive and forget any grievances from the past – now this may seem really simple and easy – and maybe it can be simple and easy if you choose to do so.
Allow yourself to accept that it is easy to forgive and let go – and it becomes easy.
3. Spend less time surfing websites that don’t tie up with your greater goal.
4. Make your time on social media highly focused and with your big goal in mind.
5. Declutter your life of physical things – just go through these 20 powerful questions that will simplify your life forever.
6. Stop doing things to please others.
Are you an approval seeking machine?
We all do so much for others and I invite you to pause and reflect on this – do you really want to do these activities or are you just trying to please others?
“Spare Me The Desire For Love, Approval And Appreciation” – Byron Katie
By living life on your own terms without wanting to please others, you will begin to focus on those relevant things that will help you make your game big.
So from today onwards, go forth and live a big life of contribution without seeking any accolades, prizes etc.
The Way Forward
So the question now is really this – are you ready to play BIG?
It’s time to stop hiding and playing small – and I invite you to publicly state how you will play big. Just add your intention in the comments section below.
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You only have one life – are you ready to make yours BIG?
Good post Arvind.
As I was reading it, it reminded me of how much time we can end up worrying about petty things, which really don’t have any consequences in the future. Better to learn how to use these moments to remain balanced and just enjoy being.
HIten, welcome to my blog.
Spot on – the moments we save by not wasting on petty things can be used to remain balanced and just enjoy being.
May you have many more such moments in 2012:-)
Hey Arvind,
Nice to see you helping others achieve their goals in 2012. Often helping other people live better lives is one of the most rewarding things we can do. I’m curious though, what do you plan to change in your own life this year?
Loved this post Arvind. Very inspiring. Here’s to living it BIG in 2012. Great post.
Sibyl, welcome to my blog again!
And here’s to an awesome 2012 all around – let’s make it a BIG year:-)
yep..letting go of the enerzy zappers always creats space for bigger and better. A good read. thx Avrind
Ntathu – Happy New Year!
Here’s to a year free of energy zappers:-)
This post resonates with me, Arvind. So much of what you have written has been playing on my mind these past few days. I too have decided to play big this year and let go of the petty stuff.
Wishing you well with your plans! I’m sure you will make them happen, Arvind!
Corrinne, I am so glad you are letting go of the petty stuff and playing big this year!
So what WILL you do in 2012?
You can either declare your intention publicly here on my blog or share with me privately via email:-)
And I know that you too will make it happen – good luck!
This is actually very correct…. every part of this post is true. And I speak from personal experience. It takes courage to venture something totally beyond your comfort zone… to risk all you’ve got. But as soon as you take the initiative to fill your life with something big, it leaves no space at all for the petty things — small minds around you, past grievances, fears, even illnesses.
Kaddu, good to see you here on my blog. Welcome!
As you say, it takes courage to go beyond your comfort zone and to risk all you have.
And as soon as you focus on the bigger picture and greater dream, you let go of all the puny and petty things that hold you back.
I wish you all the best with your life journey – just remember to think BIG 🙂