Happy New Year everyone!
Trust you had a wonderful festive time and New Year celebration with your loved ones.
As we now get into this New Year, here’s possibly the most important question you can answer this year:-
Just HOW will you make this New Year a Happy Year?
The key word we use to greet each other at this time of the year is “Happy”. As we move away from the old and bring in the new, we expect things to somehow magically be different and better on the other side of the New Year fireworks.
As you know, life is not like that!
You and I have to consciously make it happen so that things are magically different and better in the New Year. The MAGIC comes from us – through our clear intentions, effort and focus.
And the important question is this – how will YOU make this year your best year ever?
Assuming of course that you want to make it your best year. No pressure!
If you don’t want to make it your best year ever, that’s fine too.
Maybe the rest of us have got it wrong – and there’s a lot to be said about just accepting the status quo and being at peace and harmony with where you are now in life.
“Too much of a good thing can be wonderful!” – Mae West
However, I really believe that we are here to grow and experience life in its fullness and eternal richness. That growth is ultimately “spiritual” but why not make the most of each day and really push your own boundaries?
When you look back on your life, what if one day you have lots of regrets about the type of human being you never became? About things you never tried or places you never visited?
“Don’t die with your music still in you” – Wayne Dyer.
As we get into the New Year, I am clear that I am here to make the most of my life and I want to help others do the same. And that’s my music.
What’s YOUR music? And when will you begin to play it?
Remember, you make the rules in your life – so it’s time to forget all your old rules this year!
“The golden rule is there are no rules” – George Bernard Shaw
Rather than lamenting the loss of time, focus instead on the lessons you learnt last year.
And rather than pondering what you didn’t achieve last year, reflect on how much you learnt from the things you did, how you did them and also most importantly, what you didn’t do.
By seriously looking back on last year, you will see just what it is that you must stop doing from now onwards in all areas of your life this year.
To help you do just that, here are my 7 things for you to finally stop doing this year:-
1. Stop Being Miserable!
Do you laugh easily or do you take life so seriously that you hardly ever smile anymore?
Take a moment right now, look back on the last year and see if you can remember when it was that you truly laughed deeply.
Life is too short to be miserable.
Remember, laugh and the world laughs with you. Cry and no one cries with you!
So what will it take for you to be happy? To start with, check out my 17 Tips to become Happy Right now.
A lot of people talk about finding your passion but this could well become a lifelong pursuit and you may never find it. Instead of looking for your passion, why not just find your joy?
And when you look for joy, it will show up in so many ways. For example, in my case, in the first 2 hours of 2013, I met an amazingly talented singer called Joy at a New Year’s party!
Learn to be happy and joyous no matter what your life situation currently is.
Make the coming year, the year you embrace joy as a moral obligation!
And learn to become exuberant!
2. Stop Abusing Your Body
You only have one body for this life. And yet, just look around and you will see so many people simply abusing their bodies.
There is so much you can do immediately to improve your health. If you been very unfit, even if you start by simply walking 10 minutes a day, that will be a great start to a healthier and fitter you this year.
Over the next few days, review just what your health is like and decide on ways of how you can finally stop abusing your body.
For this New Year, apply my 14 tips to take total self-care of yourself.
3. Stop Wasting Your Time
Last year has gone, and try as much as you can, you will never get back the time that has gone, along with all its opportunities and gifts.
So from this year and beyond, make the most of your time. Focus on one thing at a time
This is not necessarily about doing less, but about becoming simply productive.
Stop working so hard and stop working all hours. Of course your particular job and career may dictate that you work long hours, but even then look at ways of becoming more effective and efficient.
For example, stop checking your email inbox every few minutes and spending working time on social networking websites such as Facebook and Twitter. Though these websites are now clearly a part of our lives it is up to you to be sensible about how you use them.
The point is that whatever you do, see how you can bring more leisure time into your life. And of course, remember to always stop to listen to the music.
4. Stop Collecting and Hoarding Clutter
Do you collect hoard stuff and hang on to things just because one day they may be useful?
I cannot emphasis enough just how much your life will improve the moment you stop hoarding and start de0cluttering.
To start with take my clutter quiz today.
You may even want to use the first couple of weeks of this year to go around your home and clear out stuff. Why not start the New Year in a de-cluttered home?
For this year, adopt a minimalist life. Though there are lots of resources on the net to help you do just that, I suggest you check out Leo Babauta’s minimalist website.
5. Stop Wasting Money
By adopting a minimalist approach to life, you will begin to stop wasting money. Do you really need to buy the latest gizmos and gadgets?
The media is so relentless in hammering into you messages about spending your cash – make this year, THE year you fight back.
To stop wasting money, simply stop buying more stuff. Cut back on your purchases and ask yourself every time if you really need to make that purchase.
Check out the Simple Dollar for umpteen ideas to save money
At the same time stop being wasteful with what you already have. It is shocking how so much of the food we buy in the Western world gets thrown away – estimated at least 20%!
So by being more careful with our food purchasing and eating leftovers in creative ways, we could easily cut our food bill by 20%.
6. Stop Ignoring the Key People in Your Life
Your life is made rich not by the things you have and spend money on, but by the people in your life.
From now onwards, get clear about just what and who is important in your life. Make your family and friends the focus of your life and spend more time with them.
It could be as simple as creating a special occasion once a week or more. Simply stop ignoring your loved ones.
Especially spend more time with your parents and learn what you can, whilst you still can.
Also regularly create a special occasion with your friends.
7. Stop Being Socially Irresponsible
More than ever before, the world needs you to be socially responsible. Learn and accept that how you live your life has an impact on everything and everyone around you, both locally and globally.
Everything you do matters and make’s either a positive or a negative impact on the world.
This year learn more about how you can become personally social responsible.
By cutting down on your purchases, making sensible purchasing choices and recycling your stuff, you will have already started to become more socially responsible.
However, you can begin to do a lot more by becoming much more aware of how your behaviour affects the people around you and how your lifestyle makes a lasting impact on the world.
A socially responsible person will endeavour to have a positive effect on others and enrich his environment. He will strive to make a positive contribution, and will not pollute the atmosphere, both physically and metaphorically.
“Be the Change you wish to see in the world” – Gandhi
Ultimately we are all one. Earlier on, I talked about finding your song. But ultimately we are all one and we all have the SAME song.
“At the edge of the cornfield a bird will sing with them in the oneness of their happiness.
And the bird song, and the people’s song, and the song of life will become one.” – Song of the Long Hair Kachinas, Hopi
All our songs will one day be one and ultimately it all comes down to Love.
Which brings me on to my key message again for this year and beyond – Love is all that matters.
Please check out this key post from my archives – Why Love is all That Matters Beyond 21.12.12
What Things Will You Start Doing This Year?
Once you have stopped doing the 7 things above, you naturally get drawn to doing the opposite.
So make this year the year in which you:-
- Live a Life of Joy and Laughter
- Become Truly Fit and Healthy
- Use your Time Wisely
- Adopt a Minimalist Lifestyle
- Become Prudent with your Money
- Spend Quality Time with your Loved ones
- Adopt Personal Social Responsibility
Please add below in the comments section your own ideas of what you will stop and instead start doing instead this year.
And to end, here are my final words for you for the New Year:-
May you walk in beauty, live in peace and be surrounded with love.
May the force be with you today and ever day this year!