How to Always Look on the Bright Side of Life – Even if You Don’t Want To!

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There are some people who somehow always seem able to look on the bright side of things, no matter what is going on in their life.

Then are other people who seem to delight in looking at all the things that are wrong in the world and all the things that could go wrong for them. And you may have noticed how things invariably go wrong for them!

Do you know someone negative who is like this? Or maybe it’s you!?

Yes, things can go wrong and stuff can happen – even if you are a “good” person.  It’s all just simply part and parcel of the tapestry of life.

It’s how you deal with whatever life throws at you is what matters – and it’s what will ultimately help you grow as a person.

Let me share my own story of what happened a few years ago – I had just lost my job, split up from my wife and was also about to be thrown out of my rented apartment.

Yes, I can’t even imagine now what I went through then. And yes, things looked dire but I realized over time that in the grand scheme of things, my stuff really didn’t matter.

If you are currently facing many challenges, then perhaps you want to consider this – maybe life would become rather dull if it became plain sailing!

I am not advocating creating drama in your life for the sake of it – clearly you don’t want to consciously create negative experiences for the sake of it. What I am advocating is that once stuff is happening in your life for whatever reason, it’s how you deal with it that matters.

I am also not suggesting that you become a happy, clappy smiling person, oozing sickly sweet goodness and beaming positively without any grasp of reality!

Here are my 3 steps for getting things in balance and to always look on the bright side of things:-

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James McCartney Interview: Inspirational Lessons in Life from a Rising Superstar

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Who is the most inspirational person you have met in your life?

And what lessons in life did you learn from this person?

One of the best ways to improve your life and take it to the next level is to learn from people who have already done it or doing it now, or from someone who is about to take off in life within their own chosen sphere.

Sometimes in life you meet someone who you just know is going to make a big impact in the world – and one such person I know and have in my life as a friend is rising star James McCartney, who is both an accomplished musician and an artist.

I first met James almost 6 years ago and I have had the pleasure to see him grow and develop over the years, both as a person and in his profession.

He has really focussed on what he wanted in his musical career and all his hard work and efforts are now coming to fruition.

Last week I saw James McCartney perform live in London in front of a sell-out concert and he blew the audience away with his powerful and moving performance.

He even out-shined two all-time musical legends, Ronnie Wood and Sir Paul McCartney!

James McCartney is now on the threshold of a sell-out USA Tour featuring 47 dates over 2 months.

I had the opportunity to interview James and ask him to share some of his lessons in life with us – and here’s what he shared:-

1. James, welcome to Make it Happen! Thanks for making the time in your busy schedule to share your inspirational story with my readers. And congratulations re your forthcoming USA Tour and the release of your forthcoming album!

Please tell us more about your USA tour.

Thanks Arvind for the warm welcome – I am delighted to be here.

My USA Tour begins this Saturday 6th April when I play in Portland Oregon – I then continue around the country with a total of 47 gigs all around the USA in 27 States.

I am really excited about this new adventure and it’s great to know that the tour looks like it’s going to be a sell-out.

Next week, I am looking forward to playing at Coachella in California and from there to gigs in New Mexico and the rest of the country. I can’t wait to get going!

2. James, it’s all so exciting!  I have listened to some of your new tracks and I also heard you live last week at your sell-out London gig, where your Dad joined you on the stage.

Please tell us more about your forthcoming album.

I can’t talk too much about the album as it’s not finalised yet! My first full-length album is called Me and for my first album I wanted to make a record that would be intimate, deeply personal, and honest

I wanted to create an album that would say, ‘This is who I am…both musically and personally. This is Me.”

I can’t say anything more – and I have to be a bit coy. There may be some surprises – so all I can say is watch this space….

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How I Got My Mojo Back – and Now So Can You!

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Have you ever wondered what you are doing on this planet? And why?

I have been asking myself the same questions lately – and I have to be honest – I still haven’t got much of a clue!

I always seem to do a lot of soul searching at this time of the year. And that’s because today is my birthday. Yes, I am officially a year younger today!

Of course, I’ll never ever be a grownup – I mean WHY would you ever want to grow up anyway?

My late grandfather always used to mock our birthday celebrations by saying that it was nuts to celebrate a birthday – it just meant you were that much nearer to your ultimate demise i.e. death.

So you may even think it’s kind of taboo talking of death on my birthday. But in some spiritual circles they suggest that you “die” at the end of every day – and every morning you are reborn. In which case you and I have already died and been reborn thousands of times!

Before we go any further, I have something for you – a birthday gift from me to you:-).

In my last blog post, which was about how to be outrageous and change the world, I announced the launch of my Kindle book “Get a Life”. Well, it’s FREE today and tomorrow on Amazon.

Please go and get your copy from here ASAP – get your copy from here – Amazon.Com / Amazon.Co.UK

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I hope you get a lot of value from “Get a Life” – it was the first book I ever published and it’s a simpler version of my Amazon best-seller “Get the Life you Love”.

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How to be Outrageous and Change your Life For Ever!

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When was the last time you were truly outrageous!? Indeed when was the last time you really let your hair down and you had some fun?

Next time you are on a train or a bus, just look at the people around you. I bet you will see some really serious faces, especially if you are in London travelling at peak time.

Everyone seems to be on some important mission to get somewhere fast – and they are oblivious to all that’s going on around them.

At one time, I too was like that – Mr Determined (and also Mr Angry) full of self-importance living in my little self-deluded world, full of lofty dreams.

Strange, as I wrote the last sentence, the lyrics from the Beatles haunting song “Nowhere Man” just came to my mind. Nowhere man indeed. Perhaps the opening verses apply to all of us in some way:-

He’s a real nowhere man,
Sitting in his Nowhere Land,
Making all his nowhere plans
for nobody.

Doesn’t have a point of view,
Knows not where he’s going to,
Isn’t he a bit like you and me?

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Follow Your Intuition and Change your Life

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Have you ever had a powerful urge to do something and you had wondered why?

What would your life be like if everything you did had a greater purpose to help yourself and those around you?

If you are like me, you too may often get an inner urge to do something and then wonder why. But you’ll ultimately only know what it’s all about, if you followed up and gave it a chance.

And most likely you will find that it was all about helping someone!

Let me share a couple of recent examples.

A few weeks ago I was travelling on the London Underground train system. In a very quintessential English way, we call our underground train system – the “tube”. For obvious reasons!

So when someone in London asks you if you are “taking the tube”, they are asking if you are travelling on the underground train system.

I had to change tubes to get to my destination and this time I chose a different route. I felt I just had to go one particular way, even though it was a longer route.

Something inside me seemed to be guiding me.

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Valentine’s Day – the Perfect Day to Bring more Joy into your Life!

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Happy Valentine’s Day everyone!

Valentine’s Day is a celebration of love, an opportunity for us to truly reconnect with the real meaning of this day. It is about LOVE, sharing and giving.

Rather than just focusing on what fancy gift we can give to our loved one, or how elaborately we can celebrate the day, let us focus on what we can actually give of ourselves.

Even if we are single, it is time to give more of ourselves to others. To me, it’s really not about us anymore – it is about others and what we can do for others.

“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance. ~ Oscar Wilde

On Valentine’s Day in the past, I have written extensively about this day and here is a selection of my best posts from the past:-

1. Valentine’s Day – My Top 10 Relationship Articles of All Time

2. The Ultimate 40 posts for Valentine’s Day

3. Valentine’s Day – Enjoy Life as a Single Person

I invite you to visit these 3 posts and book mark them for future reference.

There’s enough in these 3 posts to get you enlightened about love and relationships!

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Speaking of enlightenment, last weekend I had an amazing experiential weekend with Sadhguru when I took part in his Inner Engineering course.

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How to Keep Standing No Matter What Life Throws at You!

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Have you ever met someone whose life story just blows you away?

Someone who makes you wonder how they got through everything life can throw at them – and yet they got through the darkness to share their story with the world?

5 years ago, I met Mel Carnegie in Solihull near Birmingham for a quick business meeting – she wanted to tell me more about one of her projects. Nothing more came of that meeting and over the following few years we lost touch, until mid-2012.

She then told me what she had been through in her life and especially over the previous 4 years. Her whole life had been turned upside down after she found out that her husband and her supposed soulmate was in reality a lying and cheating psychopath.

It was like that character in the famous movie starring Julia RobertsSleeping with the Enemy, except this was for real!

Mel explained how she was now resurfacing after all that she had been through and had written her life story.

Her book is called “I’m Still Standing” and has been snapped up by a publisher. I have just received a signed, preview copy – and I am so pleased that her story is going to inspire many readers and change many lives.

It’s a real life story of how to make it happen for yourself no matter what – and at the same time make a difference to others.

The book is now available as a Kindle book (Amazon UK /Amazon USA) and will be available as a paperback in early April.

Mel has also kindly given me two signed pre-publication paper copies of her book “I’m Still Standing” to give away to two readers – please see more details at the bottom of this post.

I recently had the pleasure of interviewing Mel about life story and the lessons she has for all of us here.

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5 Key Lessons in Simplicity from Gandhi the Ultimate Minimalist

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Are you a minimalist – or are you a die-hard hoarder?

Do you go through life tumbling over your belongings and with your head full of things to do?

If so, then it’s time for you to learn some lessons in leading a simple life from the ultimate minimalist!

Today is the 65th anniversary of the passing of Mahatma Gandhi, one of my all-time heroes and whose life has profoundly impacted me.

Though it might be decades since he left us, his 6 Key Lessons in Life live on with us.  

It’s incredible how this seemingly simple man left such a legacy for the world and changed the lives of millions of people forever.

Though like all of us he had his faults and his personal challenges, his quest for truth and his message of non-violence is as valid and inspiring today as ever before.

As you look around the world today, can you even imagine how it could be transformed if somehow we could apply his message of “Ahimsa” – the avoidance of violence.

Gandhiji’s power and influence partly lay in his apparent simplicity and minimalist way of living. He practiced simplicity and minimalism in all areas of his life and he left behind a huge legacy in how to live a life of simplicity.

Today there’s a fledgling but growing movement in the world towards minimalism – and we can learn a lot from the ultimate minimalist. 

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Be Bold and Make It Happen in Just 30 Days!

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So how is 2013 going for you?

What’s happened to your New Year resolutions?

By this time in January, most resolutions and goals for 2013 will have been discarded and forgotten for another year. Be honest – is that the case with you!?

Quite often this is because the goals were not inspiring or bold enough.

Today it’s snowing heavily in London and on days like this one may wonder what it’s all about and why one should even ponder on grand things like changing your life for the better and pursuing life goals.

What I have learnt from myself and coaching clients is this – the bigger and bolder the goal, the more you are likely to achieve it!

The moment you commit to a bigger game, the small things in your life just drop away.

In my coaching work with various clients, I am meeting more and more people who really want to play big and at the same time make a huge contribution to the world.

Just by you reading this post shows that you are willing to go further and make big steps in your life.

“The willingness to show up changes us, it makes us a little braver each time.”  - Brene Brown

You deserve the best – and you deserve every opportunity to shine in a big way.

So today I am delighted to share with you a new course that will truly help you play bold in 2013 from my friend Tess Marshall. It’s the sort of value-filled and quality course which I wish I had created myself!

I took the opportunity to fire off a few questions to Tess, so she could tell us more about her course 30 Days of Bold.

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7 Things to Finally Stop Doing in 2013!

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Happy New Year everyone!

Trust you had a wonderful festive time with your loved ones.

My festive season started so beautifully with a day spent making and delivering Xmas hampers for families in need. That’s me above in the red wig with some inspirational friends. Be sure to join us next Dec for the annual Basket Brigade.

In the meantime, please check out these photos to find out just how much fun it can be making a contribution to others!

And now as we get into 2013, here’s possibly the most important question you can answer this year:-

Just HOW will you make 2013 a Happy Year?

The key word we use to greet each other at this time of the year is “Happy”. As we move away from the old and bring in the new, we expect things to somehow magically be different and better on the other side of the New Year fireworks.

As you know, life is not like that!

You and I have to consciously make it happen so that things are magically different and better in the New Year. The MAGIC comes from us – through our clear intentions, effort and focus.

And the important question is this – how will YOU make it happen in 2013 so that this year is your best year ever?

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Why Love is all That Matters Beyond 21.12.12

Did you know that the world is supposed to end today!?

Unless you have been living in a cave, you have known by now about all the hype about the world ending today. Hollywood made a blockbuster movie about 2012, very imaginatively called 2012 and even the BBC got in on the act this week.

Come to think of it – living in a cave is probably the safest place to be today if all the predicted doomsday stories come true!

The world is of course not going to end – but I would like to imagine and hope that a new consciousness is being borne and with it a new way of being. A way of caring, sharing and giving.  Before it’s too late.

Life will continue; hatred and negative force are ending” – Shaman Juan Osco.

As my good friend Zeenat Merchant-Syal, India’s  leading personal development blogger, put it so eloquently in her latest blog post 21/12/12 The End of the World or A New Beginning:-

“I think this is going to be a day like any other day. Yup! No big changes or earth shifts. What is going to change and has been changing are our thoughts.”

I could not agree more!

Yes, there may be significant energy shifts going on at a cosmic level – and if that means that it shifts human consciousness for the better, than I am all up for cosmic energy shifts!

However, unless we consciously change, all these perceived or real energy shifts will mean nothing. Zilch. Zero.

Then perhaps we would be better off if the world did end! Nothing would matter if we don’t become a more caring, sharing and loving race in the coming “New Age”.

That brings me very nicely to the question of Love.

What does the word LOVE mean to you?

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